Put in a dilemma of wanting to date someone, but not realistically being able to.

The last paragraph will quickly summarize the text and elaborate on the question if you are not interested in the backstory I provide down below.

I'm stuck with a problem, and it's a problem that has been haunting me for quite a few years now, ever since middle school. I'm a hopeless romantic, I love dating and I love the feeling of love. I want to express my love, and dating someone is a great way of doing that. The only issue is that I am 19 and have been experiencing a lot of change the last couple of years, and will experience a lot of change over the next couple of years. I went to an elementary school in my hometown; then I went to a middle school 30 minutes away from my hometown; then last fall I graduated HS an hour away from my hometown; and this fall I am set to move across half the world to start my university studies. And this is where my problem lies.

As you can all tell, I have been living in the same place all my life, but I have been going to schools all over the place. At the same time I have wanted a serious relationship and someone I can shower with my love for all this time. I have been dating here and there, and the girls were great fun to be with. Most didn't work out, but some I took a strong liking to. The issue here is that I have been afraid of committing to someone because of my future plans, and my relationships never last very long. In elementary school and middle school I wasn't able to keep a relationship for more than a few months because LDRs were hard for me as I wasn't mature enough. The longest one I've had was during my first 2 years of HS which also was long-distance, but I was mature enough to handle it then. We eventually broke it off because we realized it would never work out with me moving across the world, and neither of us were interested in long-distance. I am a very goal-oriented person, and often lay plans for my future years ahead of time. Both to give me a sense of direction, and to give my life meaning by creating an end-goal. I am also unwavering in giving up my goals as they often are exactly what I want to do. This has created a situation where I will start dating someone, but eventually break it off on good terms because of the long-distance aspect and that I am not able to settle down.

I have a lot of my life ahead of me, and I am moving past the part of my life where I am not able to settle down. I have 7 months left before I move across the Atlantic however, and am again beginning to catch feelings for a girl. I can't help myself. I am again at the point where my nature as a romantic and my need for love is leading me into this situation. We're hitting it off really well and share a lot of common interests and values. She is also gorgeous. The problem is that yet again I am stuck in the dilemma of me moving far away, and inevitably being forced into a LDR when I don't want that. What I'm asking for is perspective. Should I start dating this girl knowing I most likely will end up in a LDR? Or should I deprive myself for 7 months and then start dating someone after I move? This is the dilemma I have put myself in for most of my teenage life, and now that it is happening again and I am on the cusp of not having that problem anymore, as well as making my furthest move yet, I need some help solving it. I obviously want to date this girl, but at the same time I know it will only leave me hurting and her heartbroken. My heart's telling me yes, my mind's telling me no, and I don't know what to do.
Casual dating is off the table as it is not something I personally enjoy doing.

Submitted January 10, 2020 at 11:57PM

The last paragraph will quickly summarize the text and elaborate on the question if you are not interested in the backstory I provide down below.I'm stuck with a problem, and it's a problem that has been haunting me for quite a few years now, ever since middle school. I'm a hopeless romantic, I love dating and I love the feeling of love. I want to express my love, and dating someone is a great way of doing that. The only issue is that I am 19 and have been experiencing a lot of change the last couple of years, and will experience a lot of change over the next couple of years. I went to an elementary school in my hometown; then I went to a middle school 30 minutes away from my hometown; then last fall I graduated HS an hour away from my hometown; and this fall I am set to move across half the world to start my university studies. And this is where my problem lies.As you can all tell, I have been living in the same place all my life, but I have been going to schools all over the place. At the same time I have wanted a serious relationship and someone I can shower with my love for all this time. I have been dating here and there, and the girls were great fun to be with. Most didn't work out, but some I took a strong liking to. The issue here is that I have been afraid of committing to someone because of my future plans, and my relationships never last very long. In elementary school and middle school I wasn't able to keep a relationship for more than a few months because LDRs were hard for me as I wasn't mature enough. The longest one I've had was during my first 2 years of HS which also was long-distance, but I was mature enough to handle it then. We eventually broke it off because we realized it would never work out with me moving across the world, and neither of us were interested in long-distance. I am a very goal-oriented person, and often lay plans for my future years ahead of time. Both to give me a sense of direction, and to give my life meaning by creating an end-goal. I am also unwavering in giving up my goals as they often are exactly what I want to do. This has created a situation where I will start dating someone, but eventually break it off on good terms because of the long-distance aspect and that I am not able to settle down.I have a lot of my life ahead of me, and I am moving past the part of my life where I am not able to settle down. I have 7 months left before I move across the Atlantic however, and am again beginning to catch feelings for a girl. I can't help myself. I am again at the point where my nature as a romantic and my need for love is leading me into this situation. We're hitting it off really well and share a lot of common interests and values. She is also gorgeous. The problem is that yet again I am stuck in the dilemma of me moving far away, and inevitably being forced into a LDR when I don't want that. What I'm asking for is perspective. Should I start dating this girl knowing I most likely will end up in a LDR? Or should I deprive myself for 7 months and then start dating someone after I move? This is the dilemma I have put myself in for most of my teenage life, and now that it is happening again and I am on the cusp of not having that problem anymore, as well as making my furthest move yet, I need some help solving it. I obviously want to date this girl, but at the same time I know it will only leave me hurting and her heartbroken. My heart's telling me yes, my mind's telling me no, and I don't know what to do.Casual dating is off the table as it is not something I personally enjoy doing.