Am I overthinking it or something is not normal

I need advice mostly from man here .I need only the truth please I have been seeing this guy for about a year now knowing him for 4-5 years before . Am 30 he is 40 .He is good man well nothing much I can say .We are from different race . nationality and religion but culture is similar He says he loves me how proud he is to have me how much he appreciates me coz he sees how a good woman am and its hard to find .He wants to marry me . Here is the thing whenever we are outside he will look other woman .Now I know that man cannot help but notice beautiful woman but it's not juts a innocent look it more than that .It can happen everywhere where we are .the last time it happened we were at the airport there was a lady near us he kept looking at her .It's so disrespectful and I feel so bad .I told to him that it bothers me to not do it ,we fighted about it as well .And it keeps happening .he says that am overthinking that he doesn't do that .now I don't know if he not aware of it or he pretends too. It came to the point that I don't want to go out with him anymore . One time I heard one conversation with him with his friend who at that time was in Ukraine ,my bf jokingly told him to find him a good woman from there .I cried alot and said why he had to say that he said that's how man joke .it's not a big deal he is not planing to meet them .he said if I hear man talk I won't be able to date again. I don't consider myself as good looking woman, I mean am not that ugly that you cannot even look at but juts average looking sometimes cute that's it .Am also skinny something that I have hated myself for .So it makes me think it has to do with it ,maybe if I was very beautiful he will have had eyes for me only . He keeps telling me he loves me and how proud he is of me and he will never do nothing to loose me .he is very affectionate there are alot of cuddles and kisses .he says am very beautiful but I don't believe him .he says we can change countries if it makes me feel better . Some while a go one russian lady send him friend request on FB and he greeted her by saying he profile picture is lovely I confronted him immediately and asked him what he is doing .he said he was juts greetings nothing else he says he thinks his friends are using another womans profile and he juts kept playing along It really bothers me alot .it's hurts so bad .I have become very self conscious about my self .my self esteem is so low I keep comparing myself with other woman constantly .I want to get my breast done . it seems crazy but I get very disturbed when we are out and a woman passes by .he is very good looking man tall and sometimes woman look at him too . people in general like him Now to be honest I don't think he will cheat but he clearly is too friendly (if I can put it this way) for my like .He clearly doesn't understand that this is wrong .I don't know if I can see a future with him .an worried once he moves job and there he will meet other woman in the office how he will react . Some are too flirty and touchy on purpose I have seen it .so he never will tell no dont touch me to them? Am really worried as I don't want to teach him All the time what to do and how to behave it has to come of to him naturally. How to make a man like him understand that once you are in relationship you don't have to have sex with someone this other things are not Okey too . even if am not with him I want to make him understand so he can be aware where he went wrong .I love him but that's it am too hurt .Sorry about my bad English tried to explain as better as I could .if you have any advice for me am more then happy to read . I don't have much dating experience so wanted to know if this is is what I will go thru with every man .in my culture man and woman are not generally friends so cannot understand it .

Submitted January 19, 2020 at 11:51PM

I need advice mostly from man here .I need only the truth please I have been seeing this guy for about a year now knowing him for 4-5 years before . Am 30 he is 40 .He is good man well nothing much I can say .We are from different race . nationality and religion but culture is similar He says he loves me how proud he is to have me how much he appreciates me coz he sees how a good woman am and its hard to find .He wants to marry me . Here is the thing whenever we are outside he will look other woman .Now I know that man cannot help but notice beautiful woman but it's not juts a innocent look it more than that .It can happen everywhere where we are .the last time it happened we were at the airport there was a lady near us he kept looking at her .It's so disrespectful and I feel so bad .I told to him that it bothers me to not do it ,we fighted about it as well .And it keeps happening .he says that am overthinking that he doesn't do that .now I don't know if he not aware of it or he pretends too. It came to the point that I don't want to go out with him anymore . One time I heard one conversation with him with his friend who at that time was in Ukraine ,my bf jokingly told him to find him a good woman from there .I cried alot and said why he had to say that he said that's how man joke .it's not a big deal he is not planing to meet them .he said if I hear man talk I won't be able to date again. I don't consider myself as good looking woman, I mean am not that ugly that you cannot even look at but juts average looking sometimes cute that's it .Am also skinny something that I have hated myself for .So it makes me think it has to do with it ,maybe if I was very beautiful he will have had eyes for me only . He keeps telling me he loves me and how proud he is of me and he will never do nothing to loose me .he is very affectionate there are alot of cuddles and kisses .he says am very beautiful but I don't believe him .he says we can change countries if it makes me feel better . Some while a go one russian lady send him friend request on FB and he greeted her by saying he profile picture is lovely I confronted him immediately and asked him what he is doing .he said he was juts greetings nothing else he says he thinks his friends are using another womans profile and he juts kept playing along It really bothers me alot .it's hurts so bad .I have become very self conscious about my self .my self esteem is so low I keep comparing myself with other woman constantly .I want to get my breast done . it seems crazy but I get very disturbed when we are out and a woman passes by .he is very good looking man tall and sometimes woman look at him too . people in general like him Now to be honest I don't think he will cheat but he clearly is too friendly (if I can put it this way) for my like .He clearly doesn't understand that this is wrong .I don't know if I can see a future with him .an worried once he moves job and there he will meet other woman in the office how he will react . Some are too flirty and touchy on purpose I have seen it .so he never will tell no dont touch me to them? Am really worried as I don't want to teach him All the time what to do and how to behave it has to come of to him naturally. How to make a man like him understand that once you are in relationship you don't have to have sex with someone this other things are not Okey too . even if am not with him I want to make him understand so he can be aware where he went wrong .I love him but that's it am too hurt .Sorry about my bad English tried to explain as better as I could .if you have any advice for me am more then happy to read . I don't have much dating experience so wanted to know if this is is what I will go thru with every man .in my culture man and woman are not generally friends so cannot understand it .