What to do about my (22F) grumpy boyfriend (27m)?

I have been with my boyfriend for 1.9 years. He is 27 and I am 22.

Sometimes he gets really grumpy, and it really is such a damper on my mood. He will get grumpy when he’s hungry, or tired, or bored, or, just randomly.

A lot of the times he is indecisive, and therefore, never knows what he wants to do. He will get stressed out over not knowing what he wants his plans to be, or thinking about how he wants to play video games, workout, and work on some projects, and how he works 40+ hours a week.

When we talk, he will sometimes just get aggravated with me, and then complain how I don’t know what it’s like because I don’t work 40+ hours a week (I will soon), and how I have so much time and he doesn’t.

Just today, we hung out Friday until this afternoon. We talked about maybe hanging out later tonight. We both decided maybe we shouldn’t, and then we talked for a little bit, he started shaving his face/grooming himself while we were on the phone. And then he randomly got aggravated with me. He said “I can’t wait until you work 40+ hours a week and see how you have no time. Also, we talk every single day. We talk all the time”. This was really hurtful to me. Because, I saw him once this week, and we really did not talk that much this week. We did talk on the phone the other day for 3 hours, split up. Thaybwas excessive, I agree. But, the other days was maybe 5- 30 minutes, with no texting.

But, he gets like this a lot. He will just randomly get aggravated about almost everything and anything. He’ll get stressed, and then he takes it out on me. There are better ways to tell me he wants some time to himself than making me feel bad.

For the past few weeks, his grumpiness has really been getting to me. He will be so miserable and nothing will make him happy, and he won’t want to do anything, say anything, and will act hastily and rudely, and he will take it out on me.

I rarely take out my grumpiness on him. If I do, I make sure to apologize right away. His unhappiness just cuts me really deeply, and his attitude sucks!

I’m at a loss of what to do.

Submitted December 15, 2019 at 12:02AM

I have been with my boyfriend for 1.9 years. He is 27 and I am 22.Sometimes he gets really grumpy, and it really is such a damper on my mood. He will get grumpy when he’s hungry, or tired, or bored, or, just randomly.A lot of the times he is indecisive, and therefore, never knows what he wants to do. He will get stressed out over not knowing what he wants his plans to be, or thinking about how he wants to play video games, workout, and work on some projects, and how he works 40+ hours a week.When we talk, he will sometimes just get aggravated with me, and then complain how I don’t know what it’s like because I don’t work 40+ hours a week (I will soon), and how I have so much time and he doesn’t.Just today, we hung out Friday until this afternoon. We talked about maybe hanging out later tonight. We both decided maybe we shouldn’t, and then we talked for a little bit, he started shaving his face/grooming himself while we were on the phone. And then he randomly got aggravated with me. He said “I can’t wait until you work 40+ hours a week and see how you have no time. Also, we talk every single day. We talk all the time”. This was really hurtful to me. Because, I saw him once this week, and we really did not talk that much this week. We did talk on the phone the other day for 3 hours, split up. Thaybwas excessive, I agree. But, the other days was maybe 5- 30 minutes, with no texting.But, he gets like this a lot. He will just randomly get aggravated about almost everything and anything. He’ll get stressed, and then he takes it out on me. There are better ways to tell me he wants some time to himself than making me feel bad.For the past few weeks, his grumpiness has really been getting to me. He will be so miserable and nothing will make him happy, and he won’t want to do anything, say anything, and will act hastily and rudely, and he will take it out on me.I rarely take out my grumpiness on him. If I do, I make sure to apologize right away. His unhappiness just cuts me really deeply, and his attitude sucks!I’m at a loss of what to do.