Boyfriend filed for divorce and its taking a toll on our relationship

So, my boyfriend and I started dating a couple of months ago, and I did know that he was still technically married but their relationship has been over for years. They recently filed for divorce and he wasn’t single for long, he didn’t want to take time to get all of the things figured out, he just wanted to jump into a relationship with me, and they were together for 6 almost 7 years. She ended up getting pregnant and told him that if he doesn’t marry her then he would have no rights to his daughter, which at the time he was young and naive. And he wanted a divorce for a while but couldn’t do it because he was hoping for the best until she didn’t want to try no more, until I came along. And he just recently told me that he is overwhelmed from going from a relationship where they argued all the time to our relationship. I sat him down and asked him what’s wrong and he had told me that he thinks he jumped in way to fast. I knew what I was getting myself into and was prepared for anything that came my way. He says he doesn’t want to break up, and he doesn’t want to be done at all, he just doesn’t know what to do. He says he has lost himself and doesn’t know who he is anymore.

He says he has lost his motivation to simply say “I’m going to kill today”. Now he’s thinking that his way out of his stress with going to school, having a kid, and getting a divorce is to kill himself. He says that I’m smothering him and I asked him how and he couldn’t give me a direct answer, so I told him that he doesn’t need to take me to everything and that he can do his own thing, and he just sat there quietly. He looks at me dead in the eyes and says we can make this work; I just don’t know how. I asked him if he wants me to move back home for a while, and he says no. I told him ill sleep in the other bedroom tonight to give him his space, since I don’t want to smother him, and he said no that will only make things worse. So, I don’t know what to do. I have met his daughter and put time and effort into hanging out with the both of them. He is still checking in on me asking me if I want food and is still filling me in on what he is doing. I’m head over heels in love with this guy, and I know that he loves me to. I’m just at a crossroad and I’m not sure what to do and how to help him if I can. Please help. Because it’s making me depressed

Submitted November 08, 2019 at 12:11AM

So, my boyfriend and I started dating a couple of months ago, and I did know that he was still technically married but their relationship has been over for years. They recently filed for divorce and he wasn’t single for long, he didn’t want to take time to get all of the things figured out, he just wanted to jump into a relationship with me, and they were together for 6 almost 7 years. She ended up getting pregnant and told him that if he doesn’t marry her then he would have no rights to his daughter, which at the time he was young and naive. And he wanted a divorce for a while but couldn’t do it because he was hoping for the best until she didn’t want to try no more, until I came along. And he just recently told me that he is overwhelmed from going from a relationship where they argued all the time to our relationship. I sat him down and asked him what’s wrong and he had told me that he thinks he jumped in way to fast. I knew what I was getting myself into and was prepared for anything that came my way. He says he doesn’t want to break up, and he doesn’t want to be done at all, he just doesn’t know what to do. He says he has lost himself and doesn’t know who he is anymore.He says he has lost his motivation to simply say “I’m going to kill today”. Now he’s thinking that his way out of his stress with going to school, having a kid, and getting a divorce is to kill himself. He says that I’m smothering him and I asked him how and he couldn’t give me a direct answer, so I told him that he doesn’t need to take me to everything and that he can do his own thing, and he just sat there quietly. He looks at me dead in the eyes and says we can make this work; I just don’t know how. I asked him if he wants me to move back home for a while, and he says no. I told him ill sleep in the other bedroom tonight to give him his space, since I don’t want to smother him, and he said no that will only make things worse. So, I don’t know what to do. I have met his daughter and put time and effort into hanging out with the both of them. He is still checking in on me asking me if I want food and is still filling me in on what he is doing. I’m head over heels in love with this guy, and I know that he loves me to. I’m just at a crossroad and I’m not sure what to do and how to help him if I can. Please help. Because it’s making me depressed