I'm a good looking guy, but have little confidence when talking to cute girls. How can I be more confident?

TLDR; I'm a good looking 21 yo dude, but get shook when talking to cute girls. I have no experience. How do I make a move without blowing it?

I can confidently say that I am a handsome guy. I'm tall and in decent shape. I could be in better shape, but I could still keep up whenever I play sports. I wouldn't say that I could be a model, but who knows. I'm Mexican with brown skin, but I've been told that I look puerto Rican, Dominican, and even middle eastern one time. I guess I sort of look like a Mexican Chris Brown.

I've been feeling this way since I was about 19. I'm 21 now and feel this way every day I wake up. In short, I am for the most part confident about my looks.

Despite my good looks, I have never had a girlfriend. I was never interested in having a GF throughout high school because I went to small school. I honestly did feel attracted to many of them. And the ones I that I was to, were taken. Another issue I had throughout school was having girls who crushed on me. This made me feel super weird and did not know how to act or respond to girl's feelings about me. Because of this, after 10th grade I kinda stopped befriending girls in my school because, I did not want to be in an uncomfortable situation where they would end up liking me in a way that I did not like them. I think this is where a lot of my lack of social skills stem from.

I started school at my new school this week and have seen so many cute girls at my campus. I have noticed a few girls looking at me as I walk by or vice versa. When I notice this and make eye contact with them, they immediately look away(I do the same).

I do not have a problem with eye contact in other situations. I can keep eye contact when I am talking to someone, for example, whenever I purchase something, I always keep eye contact with the cashier. I have done this with a few cute cashiers. Sometimes when I do this, it seems as if her eyes glow for a second and then I get a smile from her(I smile too).

For some reason I cannot do the same whenever I am in a situation where I am talking to a girl where the conversation is initiated by me. The only time I am able to do this is if I'm not attracted to the girl I'm talking to.(I should also mention that I can keep eye contact when talking to other guys, but I'm straight, and simply do so to show that I am giving my attention).

Just recently this weakness of mine caused for me to possibly ruin my chances with a cute girl at work that I've had my eyes on for while. I have been working at this place for about a month now.

There's this girl who I think is very pretty. Whenever I see her interact with other people, she seems like a polite, nice, and friendly person. We're both aware of each other's existence. We would occasionally pass by each other, but not say anything( Usually we're busy at work).

One time while I was passing by her I was looking up and looked down to look at her. I realized she had been looking at me as I passed by. When she saw me notice this as I made slight eye contact with her, she seemed embarrassed for being caught off guard and looked away almost immediately( I also immediately cut the eye contact and went on my way to do whatever I was doing).

I would have approached her to try and spark up a conversation, but she is usually working with her coworker. I do not want to interrupt her and cut her friend off, and also because I'm shy.

This past week she was working alone. I work in a warehouse and we occasionally have to carry some heavy packages to place on top of shelves. I was working on the same aisle as her, but both of us had individual tasks. As I was placing down a package into a designated aisle, she tapped my shoulder and asked me to help with a package. I of course said yes and helped her place it on the top shelf. She said "Thank You" and I said "Yeah", then continued with my task. After I said this, I knew I should have said something else like maybe "Any time" or "You're Welcome".

Later on in the day, as I was working on a different aisle and she was just a couple of aisles down from me. As I was exiting my aisle to shelf a package, she once again asked for my help. There were two packages this time. I obliged and noticed the packages weren't that heavy. Maybe it was for her, but it seemed to me that I had seen her lift heavier packages in the past. I think this might be a hint that she wants for me to talk to her or something. She then said thank you and was looking at me while smiling. I did not hesitate to quickly look away and say "No problem" as I went to continue my task.

I feel like this girl might be attracted to me. I am not sure what to do though. I want to spark up a conversation after work, but I think she has a different shift than I do and leaves later in the day. I also do not know when she takes her break, or which break room she goes to do so. I don't even know her name.

I have seen many youtube videos on about dating and talking to girls. Ranging from Jessica J to the Hodgetwins. From what I've gathered watching their videos is that I need to be the one to go for the "kill". I need to show confidence and take control of the situation. I don't know if this is the right move, or not. How should I approach this girl. Should I just wing it one day and be like "Hey? What's up", and simply introduce myself?

Submitted August 31, 2019 at 11:47PM

TLDR; I'm a good looking 21 yo dude, but get shook when talking to cute girls. I have no experience. How do I make a move without blowing it?I can confidently say that I am a handsome guy. I'm tall and in decent shape. I could be in better shape, but I could still keep up whenever I play sports. I wouldn't say that I could be a model, but who knows. I'm Mexican with brown skin, but I've been told that I look puerto Rican, Dominican, and even middle eastern one time. I guess I sort of look like a Mexican Chris Brown.I've been feeling this way since I was about 19. I'm 21 now and feel this way every day I wake up. In short, I am for the most part confident about my looks.Despite my good looks, I have never had a girlfriend. I was never interested in having a GF throughout high school because I went to small school. I honestly did feel attracted to many of them. And the ones I that I was to, were taken. Another issue I had throughout school was having girls who crushed on me. This made me feel super weird and did not know how to act or respond to girl's feelings about me. Because of this, after 10th grade I kinda stopped befriending girls in my school because, I did not want to be in an uncomfortable situation where they would end up liking me in a way that I did not like them. I think this is where a lot of my lack of social skills stem from.I started school at my new school this week and have seen so many cute girls at my campus. I have noticed a few girls looking at me as I walk by or vice versa. When I notice this and make eye contact with them, they immediately look away(I do the same).I do not have a problem with eye contact in other situations. I can keep eye contact when I am talking to someone, for example, whenever I purchase something, I always keep eye contact with the cashier. I have done this with a few cute cashiers. Sometimes when I do this, it seems as if her eyes glow for a second and then I get a smile from her(I smile too).For some reason I cannot do the same whenever I am in a situation where I am talking to a girl where the conversation is initiated by me. The only time I am able to do this is if I'm not attracted to the girl I'm talking to.(I should also mention that I can keep eye contact when talking to other guys, but I'm straight, and simply do so to show that I am giving my attention).Just recently this weakness of mine caused for me to possibly ruin my chances with a cute girl at work that I've had my eyes on for while. I have been working at this place for about a month now.There's this girl who I think is very pretty. Whenever I see her interact with other people, she seems like a polite, nice, and friendly person. We're both aware of each other's existence. We would occasionally pass by each other, but not say anything( Usually we're busy at work).One time while I was passing by her I was looking up and looked down to look at her. I realized she had been looking at me as I passed by. When she saw me notice this as I made slight eye contact with her, she seemed embarrassed for being caught off guard and looked away almost immediately( I also immediately cut the eye contact and went on my way to do whatever I was doing).I would have approached her to try and spark up a conversation, but she is usually working with her coworker. I do not want to interrupt her and cut her friend off, and also because I'm shy.This past week she was working alone. I work in a warehouse and we occasionally have to carry some heavy packages to place on top of shelves. I was working on the same aisle as her, but both of us had individual tasks. As I was placing down a package into a designated aisle, she tapped my shoulder and asked me to help with a package. I of course said yes and helped her place it on the top shelf. She said "Thank You" and I said "Yeah", then continued with my task. After I said this, I knew I should have said something else like maybe "Any time" or "You're Welcome".Later on in the day, as I was working on a different aisle and she was just a couple of aisles down from me. As I was exiting my aisle to shelf a package, she once again asked for my help. There were two packages this time. I obliged and noticed the packages weren't that heavy. Maybe it was for her, but it seemed to me that I had seen her lift heavier packages in the past. I think this might be a hint that she wants for me to talk to her or something. She then said thank you and was looking at me while smiling. I did not hesitate to quickly look away and say "No problem" as I went to continue my task.I feel like this girl might be attracted to me. I am not sure what to do though. I want to spark up a conversation after work, but I think she has a different shift than I do and leaves later in the day. I also do not know when she takes her break, or which break room she goes to do so. I don't even know her name.I have seen many youtube videos on about dating and talking to girls. Ranging from Jessica J to the Hodgetwins. From what I've gathered watching their videos is that I need to be the one to go for the "kill". I need to show confidence and take control of the situation. I don't know if this is the right move, or not. How should I approach this girl. Should I just wing it one day and be like "Hey? What's up", and simply introduce myself?