One lives in a different city, one lives in my city, and I don’t know what to do

So around 2 weeks ago I met this girl on Tinder, and we seemed to hit it off really well. But then I found out that she was only visiting Houston to see some family and I was like “ohhh shit” but then we have been still talking throughout those past 2 weeks but today she asked me where things are going because we both live in different cities and she thought she already planned to come back to Houston in August but now she’s not sure if she’s actually gonna. I didn’t know what to tell her so I just simply told her that I needed some time to think about it and she let me. Before I met her, I met this other girl on Tinder who actually lives in Houston. But the thing is, we didn’t match, I followed her on instagram but I noticed that she already follows me so I’m not sure about all the details yet. She replied to one of my stories and we were talking for a bit and then she asked me if I could call her and I said sure and then we facetimed for literally 3 hours!! I asked her out as well! And so the next day I was waiting for her and well... she didn’t respond to my texts later that day and she stood me up. I was so fucking upset. I asked her what was going on and she didn’t respond. So I gave her some time, and a few days later I asked her if everything was okay and she told me that she was sorry for changing her mind and that she’s not ready for all the talking stuff yet, and I didn’t know what to say so I said “well at least you were honest.” Then 3 days later I wanted to talk to her asking her if she could talk to me, and I don’t know what happened but I told her that if she doesn’t wanna communicate to me about how she feels inside then it’s not gonna work out and I deleted her from snapchat and I blocked her on instagram. A week later, which was yesterday, I was thinking about her for some reason, and I unblocked her and followed her. She immediately followed me back. I apologized to her for acting very immature and asked her if we could start over. She later explained to me the reason why she ghosted me and stood me up. It was because she thought that she wasn’t good enough for me and that she would feel like a total downgrade. She also told me that she’s a little scared of commitment. That right there made me feel like a total fucking idiot. I felt so bad for what I did, I wanted to make it right. I told her that she was beautiful and that she is good enough and that I’ve never even dated anyone before so it wasn’t like I could compre anyone to her. I also told her that we don’t have to rush and that we should take our time, and now everything’s all good between us. Now I’m in this tough situation and I don’t know what to do!! I don’t know why but talking to two girls at once kinda makes me feel like a pig. If anyone could help me out, I would appreciate it!

Submitted July 15, 2019 at 12:23AM

So around 2 weeks ago I met this girl on Tinder, and we seemed to hit it off really well. But then I found out that she was only visiting Houston to see some family and I was like “ohhh shit” but then we have been still talking throughout those past 2 weeks but today she asked me where things are going because we both live in different cities and she thought she already planned to come back to Houston in August but now she’s not sure if she’s actually gonna. I didn’t know what to tell her so I just simply told her that I needed some time to think about it and she let me. Before I met her, I met this other girl on Tinder who actually lives in Houston. But the thing is, we didn’t match, I followed her on instagram but I noticed that she already follows me so I’m not sure about all the details yet. She replied to one of my stories and we were talking for a bit and then she asked me if I could call her and I said sure and then we facetimed for literally 3 hours!! I asked her out as well! And so the next day I was waiting for her and well... she didn’t respond to my texts later that day and she stood me up. I was so fucking upset. I asked her what was going on and she didn’t respond. So I gave her some time, and a few days later I asked her if everything was okay and she told me that she was sorry for changing her mind and that she’s not ready for all the talking stuff yet, and I didn’t know what to say so I said “well at least you were honest.” Then 3 days later I wanted to talk to her asking her if she could talk to me, and I don’t know what happened but I told her that if she doesn’t wanna communicate to me about how she feels inside then it’s not gonna work out and I deleted her from snapchat and I blocked her on instagram. A week later, which was yesterday, I was thinking about her for some reason, and I unblocked her and followed her. She immediately followed me back. I apologized to her for acting very immature and asked her if we could start over. She later explained to me the reason why she ghosted me and stood me up. It was because she thought that she wasn’t good enough for me and that she would feel like a total downgrade. She also told me that she’s a little scared of commitment. That right there made me feel like a total fucking idiot. I felt so bad for what I did, I wanted to make it right. I told her that she was beautiful and that she is good enough and that I’ve never even dated anyone before so it wasn’t like I could compre anyone to her. I also told her that we don’t have to rush and that we should take our time, and now everything’s all good between us. Now I’m in this tough situation and I don’t know what to do!! I don’t know why but talking to two girls at once kinda makes me feel like a pig. If anyone could help me out, I would appreciate it!