He doesn’t even care so why do I miss him so much?

Our relationship wasn’t very long, but it was amazing. Then all of a sudden he was distant (he blamed it on mental health issues) and I tried to be supportive. Then not long after, POOF, gone! It’s been a couple months, and I’ve respected no-contact despite the fact that I had to contact him about something unrelated recently. He was so short and cold. He replied with a one word answer and nothing more so I left him alone.

Nonetheless, I’m educated (self employed and in grad school), good values, often told how attractive I am, am huge into fitness/lifting and have an excellent physique, ect.

I’m not high maintenance and I’m pretty independent. Im very generous and caring/ not demanding of my partner. I’m genuinely a good person and I feel like I have a lot to offer yet I’m so lonely. I spent 2 years before I was ready for a relationship or dating because I was waiting for someone like him to come along.

I have all these guys clamoring to go out with me, but I can’t seem to get to the heart of the ONE man I really fell hard for.

He doesn’t even care about me. He made that perfectly clear the last couple times we spoke. He went from being the man of my dreams to being so cold and indifferent. There wasn’t even a fight or anything that triggered it. I was completely blindsided.

I’ve tried flirting with guys online, I even thought about going out on dates but I can’t bring myself to do it because no man will ever be good enough. The pain has lessened a little, but I’m just so heartbroken. I miss him so much. I keep trying to tell myself I’m better off without him, he wasn’t all that special, ect, but the truth is I miss being in his arms so much, our long intense conversations, the lovemaking, the silly laughs.

So what the heck is wrong with me? Why am I wasting my time pining over someone who doesn’t even care?

I’ve done everything to move forward, focus on myself, stay busy and heal, but he always seems to creep in my mind.

Why???



Submitted June 10, 2019 at 12:04AM

Our relationship wasn’t very long, but it was amazing. Then all of a sudden he was distant (he blamed it on mental health issues) and I tried to be supportive. Then not long after, POOF, gone! It’s been a couple months, and I’ve respected no-contact despite the fact that I had to contact him about something unrelated recently. He was so short and cold. He replied with a one word answer and nothing more so I left him alone.Nonetheless, I’m educated (self employed and in grad school), good values, often told how attractive I am, am huge into fitness/lifting and have an excellent physique, ect.I’m not high maintenance and I’m pretty independent. Im very generous and caring/ not demanding of my partner. I’m genuinely a good person and I feel like I have a lot to offer yet I’m so lonely. I spent 2 years before I was ready for a relationship or dating because I was waiting for someone like him to come along.I have all these guys clamoring to go out with me, but I can’t seem to get to the heart of the ONE man I really fell hard for.He doesn’t even care about me. He made that perfectly clear the last couple times we spoke. He went from being the man of my dreams to being so cold and indifferent. There wasn’t even a fight or anything that triggered it. I was completely blindsided.I’ve tried flirting with guys online, I even thought about going out on dates but I can’t bring myself to do it because no man will ever be good enough. The pain has lessened a little, but I’m just so heartbroken. I miss him so much. I keep trying to tell myself I’m better off without him, he wasn’t all that special, ect, but the truth is I miss being in his arms so much, our long intense conversations, the lovemaking, the silly laughs.So what the heck is wrong with me? Why am I wasting my time pining over someone who doesn’t even care?I’ve done everything to move forward, focus on myself, stay busy and heal, but he always seems to creep in my mind.Why???
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