sex is cool and interesting December 14, 2022 at 01:13AM

maybe im coping with the fact that i'm a bad person but over the weekend, this guy kissed me and i reciprocated the kiss when my best friend told me she was uncomfortable with it because she might like him. however, she did not explicitly say she liked him. in fact she said multiple times she did not like him and she did not know how to feel. also she rejected him four times. he's not very attractive but we talked a lot and his personality made him attractive and it's been a while since I made out or been with someone I emotionally connected with so well. I feel like a horrible person for putting myself above my friend's feelings becasue she is my best friend and no guy is worth the friendship we have. i promised her that i wouldnt make any advances and would distance myself from him if she was uncomfortble but i felt like i couldnt because he was so easy to talk to and i somewhat liked being around him. however, i also asked her to stop me at any point she felt uncomf...

My boyfriend (26) and I (25) moved to British Colombia about a month ago. And everything was going well until he got sick had anxiety and the flu. I took care of him for 3 weeks straight made sure he was eating and cleaned made him baths the whole ordeal. We were closer than ever he told me he appreciated all I was doing for him and he loved me so much. We talked and he said he wanted to move back to Toronto since it wasn't working out for him there and he wasnt doing well. I agreed and did everything, sold all our stuff from the apartment and packed up our stuff. We drive back for 5 days straight of being in a car. Towards the end of the trip he became really cold and distant and I kept asking if everything was okay. When we finally get to the house the plan was going to be that I would be living with him at his dad's house. We went in, I took a shower and went to bed beside him. He was sighing a bunch and then he left the bed. I knew I should have probably giving him space...

So there’s this girl at my work who I’ve had a crush on for a while. We’re both 21. I finally asked her out to lunch a few weeks ago after months of wanting to ask her out but being too shy. She said yes and gave me her number. I texted her on thanksgiving saying “I hope you have a great thanksgiving :)” then she replies an hour later with aw thanks you too. Everything was going great, we were talking at work more and it seems like we were getting more comfortable around each other. Then out of no where she just randomly started not replying or opening my messages, which I immediately knew as she was ignoring me since before when I’ve texted her she’s replied within an hour every time. I texted her on November 28 asking if she was free that Thursday, no response at all. At work she paid it no mind as if nothings happened. I called her last Sunday night just seeing if she didn’t see the texts and would pick up the phone. She didn’t of course, so I left a message saying I was still inte...

I mean if we're wishing for things then I'll take super powers please December 13, 2022 at 11:28PM

I feel EXACTLY the same way as you. I am 42 years old and I feel like I have been having sex just to please my boyfriend/ husband and not bc I actually really desire to have sex. My husband died almost 6 years ago and I feel horrible saying this but not having him constantly badgering me into having sex has been so nice. Anytime I even think about maybe wanting a relationship again, as soon as I realize I’d have to have sex with this person I’m immediately back to feeling like I’m better off staying single lol . I just wanna eat yummy food, talk, laugh, watch tv, cuddle, etc. and I wish sex wasn’t any part of it. I actually stopped initiating cuddling bc every boyfriend I ever had thought it meant I was giving the green light for sex. I used to use alcohol or weed to try and numb myself out of the discomfort having sex would bring me. I’m just now realizing that maybe I’m not just a weirdo and maybe there are people out there that feel just like I do and it’s definitely comforting. ...

Quick context: I’ve been seeing this girl 3 months now. She is only 19, says she has never dated before (or had a boyfriend or ANYTHING romantic), and is very guarded/conservative. On our third date she told me she is all new to this and wanted to be friends first and take things slow. With that said, we have been out together 7-8 more times since then and it’s gone super well. She even had me over to her small intimate familys thanksgiving, had me go to a christmas party as her plus one, and all that. With that said, I really don’t want to be strung along or used for attention. It’s abundantly clear that I’m the only guy in her life right now that she hangs out with, and honestly maybe even the only non-family member she spends time with outside work. She is a very guarded individual and keeps making comments about “how she was raised” when it comes to certain secular/mainstream things or even just girls/guys hanging out. There’s been positive signs like us flirting with each othe...