he gaslighted me and broke up with me

My boyfriend (26) and I (25) moved to British Colombia about a month ago. And everything was going well until he got sick had anxiety and the flu. I took care of him for 3 weeks straight made sure he was eating and cleaned made him baths the whole ordeal. We were closer than ever he told me he appreciated all I was doing for him and he loved me so much.

We talked and he said he wanted to move back to Toronto since it wasn't working out for him there and he wasnt doing well. I agreed and did everything, sold all our stuff from the apartment and packed up our stuff. We drive back for 5 days straight of being in a car.

Towards the end of the trip he became really cold and distant and I kept asking if everything was okay. When we finally get to the house the plan was going to be that I would be living with him at his dad's house. We went in, I took a shower and went to bed beside him. He was sighing a bunch and then he left the bed. I knew I should have probably giving him space right then and there and maybe it wasnt a good idea to continue spending time together. I went and told him if he needed space I would provide that and he said he just wants to be alone to work on himself and he couldn't do it with me. I asked if he was breaking up with me and he said yes. I could not believe it. I felt gaslighted where did this come from I asked ? He said he was just thinking and he had not been okay with his anxiety and he couldn't provide for me or be there the way I wanted him to. I said I understand he needed to work on himself but there was no reason to break up.

Tommorow we are talking and I don't know what I'm going to say. I moved back to my parents house because he didn't want me living there with him. He broke my heart.

I'm going to tell him I don't want to break up I love him so much and I took care of him never complained even though it was so hard and exhausting. He can't treat people like this I feel horrible right now and I haven't been able to sleep for the past two days. I can't eat. I got so drunk yesterday to the point where I couldn't move. I don't know why he's doing this and I don't know how breaking up with me will fix his problems. I want to beg for him to stay.



Submitted December 14, 2022 at 12:17AM

My boyfriend (26) and I (25) moved to British Colombia about a month ago. And everything was going well until he got sick had anxiety and the flu. I took care of him for 3 weeks straight made sure he was eating and cleaned made him baths the whole ordeal. We were closer than ever he told me he appreciated all I was doing for him and he loved me so much.We talked and he said he wanted to move back to Toronto since it wasn't working out for him there and he wasnt doing well. I agreed and did everything, sold all our stuff from the apartment and packed up our stuff. We drive back for 5 days straight of being in a car.Towards the end of the trip he became really cold and distant and I kept asking if everything was okay. When we finally get to the house the plan was going to be that I would be living with him at his dad's house. We went in, I took a shower and went to bed beside him. He was sighing a bunch and then he left the bed. I knew I should have probably giving him space right then and there and maybe it wasnt a good idea to continue spending time together. I went and told him if he needed space I would provide that and he said he just wants to be alone to work on himself and he couldn't do it with me. I asked if he was breaking up with me and he said yes. I could not believe it. I felt gaslighted where did this come from I asked ? He said he was just thinking and he had not been okay with his anxiety and he couldn't provide for me or be there the way I wanted him to. I said I understand he needed to work on himself but there was no reason to break up.Tommorow we are talking and I don't know what I'm going to say. I moved back to my parents house because he didn't want me living there with him. He broke my heart.I'm going to tell him I don't want to break up I love him so much and I took care of him never complained even though it was so hard and exhausting. He can't treat people like this I feel horrible right now and I haven't been able to sleep for the past two days. I can't eat. I got so drunk yesterday to the point where I couldn't move. I don't know why he's doing this and I don't know how breaking up with me will fix his problems. I want to beg for him to stay.
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