My friend (28yF) met a guy online. A couple of weeks into dating, he shared that he is moving across the US for his job. By a month in to dating he set the expectation that she would be moving with him in August (12 weeks from starting to date) if all works out. He says he doesnt expect her to move without a ring. He has plans to have kids, live on the ocean, have separate bank accounts), etc. These conversations were all before I met the guy around week 4 of them dating. He invited her to travel to Europe for 2 weeks, 6weeks in to dating. She went. Her feedback to me was that they did some amazing things, but she was super up and down with him and did want more alone time than they had. Before meeting her BF (33yM), I learned that my friend was super hopeful that this could workout despite how crazy fast things would move. My friend said she would move for someone she loves, but she wasnt "there" yet. She shared with me all if his ideas for the future, which felt very much...

25M, I just started working in the hospital and am on the same team as this girl 27F who after a week, I’ve developed a crush on. But being residents in a hospital, we are both constantly on the go, with each other 12 hours a day, and there isn’t true down time other than do housekeeping data entry at the computers. I strongly dislike making small talk but I haven’t really had a chance to have an engaging conversation with this girl other than a handful of times. She’ll ask me how my day is going and other things about my goals and things I like. She also asked me if I was going to work social this week which I told her I wasn’t going to be at. We’ve been joking around and teasing each other. She seems like a very genuine and kind girl so I’m thinking that she’s just being friendly right now. Is there anyway I can legitimately get to know her without messing with our professional relationship right now? TL;DR- I’ve developed a crush on my coresident who I’ve started working with this...

This is a throwaway, and the post will be long so please bear with me. I'd also like some advice from Asians/South Asians if possible because this may be cultural as well. I graduated from well-known college near my home town about a month ago. I was a commuter student and graduated a year early, so the only time where I wasn't completely living at home was my last semester which I compromised for with some other things. It was only in the last year of college where I really started making friends and having more kickbacks, and just doing more things in general. For context, I went to my first concert back in October and was allowed to go to another state for a weekend with my friends with just us. Even then, my parents liked doing random drop-ins to my apartment or when I was walking back home from class at around 8-9 pm, which honestly annoyed me because I had specifically requested they only come when I ask them to. I've recently moved back into my parents' house ...

A few times now my younger sister has organised some sort of catch up event (e.g. brunch, dinner, movies) with myself and our other sister [21F]. Every single time when it comes to pay and they ask if we’re paying all together, she doesn’t jump in and say we’re splitting the bill but just looks at me to pay. She’s organised for us to go to the movies tonight and then just texted us saying ‘does someone want to book the tickets?’ as though she can’t do it herself. The thing is, I generally don’t mind paying if that expectation wasn’t there. And sometimes, these meals just add up and it would be good if they paid for their own food sometimes too! I’m not sure what to do without coming across rude. Currently I’m ignoring her text message about booking the movie tickets but that doesn’t really address the problem. It’s not so much that she’s not paying for herself, but that expectation (and the fact that she never directly ASKS but just implies it) that I pay makes me feel like I’m jus...

Ok so I really struggled to find a title for this mess, because that‘s what it is - a big mess. But I‘ll try to exlpain it as good as I can. Just a few things before I start: - First love / husband I will refer to as DH (M/24) - internet love i will refer as IL (M/24) - I‘m 23 and female - English is not my first language so sorry in advance Soo my story begins with in 2012 with 16 year old mee crazyyy falling in love for the very first time. It was crazy and all-consuming. I saw him, looked him in the eyes and just knew in my deepest heart that I will someday marry this boy before even knowing his name or anything who he is. So in my culture there is no such thing as boyfriend girlfriend, if you are seen out in public together you‘re basically engaged. So we did everything we could to hide our relationship. We had a long-distance relationship after the first 6 months and I would say it became rough after that- because it always was. But thats another thing. So what had to happene...

My boyfriend used to be avid smoker in the first year and half of our relationship. I managed to make him stop. But now he wont let go of the vape. He insists on vaping indoors and inside cars. Whenever I bring up the conversation of quitting vape he shuts me down and tells me that he already quit cigarettes so he needs something else to smoke. And that vaping is not bad for you. He says he will never quit vaping. If I'm being honest, I have realized recently that I find it repulsive that hes so addicted to having "something to smoke" at all times. And the smell of his vape never leaves his lips or even the air in the house. The smell annoys me to no end. Tl;dr boyfriend wont stop smoking his vape after quitting cigarettes. I'm not sure what to do. Is a break up the only solution? Submitted June 30, 2019 at 12:17AM My boyfriend used to be avid smoker in the first year and half of our relationship. I managed to make him stop. But now he wont let go of the vap...

I'm about to graduate from college this July and move in with my father due to my lease expiring, my roommates are all moving, and not securing a full time job. I currently have a part time job that pays decently. The main issue is I'm currently in summer school and he is frustrated I don't have a job yet. I forwarded him my resume even though I told him I hired someone to review my resume. Several people have helped me format my resume. However my dad feels since I not landed a job in a month since actively applying I'm screwing around. How do I establish boundaries with someone who I'm about to move in with. ​ TDLR; I'm moving in with my father less than a month from now due to not having a full time job. Currently applying for jobs and he is frustrated I have not secured one yet. Submitted June 30, 2019 at 12:20AM I'm about to graduate from college this July and move in with my father due to my lease expiring, my roommates are all moving, and not...