Am I overreacting?

I (30f) Recently started talking to this guy (35m) in September of this year and things have been okay to say the least. A week after we first met, he asked me on a date, We met at a local restaurant that I’d never been to and was impressed. The date went really good and i enjoyed getting to know him (although he was a kind of quiet). We’ve been texting daily, and although sometimes the conversations get a little dry, I’ve been honestly enjoying talking to him.

Now for the reason for my post

This Saturday that just passed, He invited me to his house for the first time for to hang out and for drinks (i told him about me leaving my job the previous Thursday and he recognized i needed a little pick me up) And while we were drinking he requested me to cook for him. Previously He asked me before through texting and i thought he was playing around (because it was like day 3 of us getting to know each other and i was like “booooy noo lol”) So when he asked me again it caught me a little of guard because i thought it was a strange request and because he was pushing the issue about me saying no to cooking for him in that moment, i opened up to him about some trauma i have around cooking. Growing up a boisterous but timid kid trying to learn to cook from a mother with no patience and quick to showcase her frustrations, resulted in a lot of trauma (that I’m currently in the process of working through). I kept my explanation short and sweet and I stated that “ because of my trauma around cooking, i don’t do it often only when I’m really feeling inspired, but i can cut df outta some grass” and i laughed. I then stated “cooking isn’t really my strong suit but, I’ll definitely help you. He stated that he understood and that i didn’t have to help. I stayed in the kitchen with him while he was cooking and it seemed like everything was okay. He ended up cooking without my help but i stayed in his space and just passed things to him that he might have needed, just to try to be as helpful as i could.

Then yesterday, on Tuesday he posts on his on FB story “if she can’t cook, she gotta cut the grass…fuck that 😂😂😂🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️”. While the post by itself is harmless and without context was funny , it bothered me and for a while i didn’t know why but i say on it. It really hurt my feelings. I took it as a jab towards me because i felt like it was too much of a coincidence for it to be a repost being that THAT was the specific thing i opened up about. I talked to my mom about and she says that I’m overreacting and that he’s just trying to make people laugh and that I’m being too sensitive but i truly don’t know. I know that I’m sensitive, yet i don’t feel like I’m overreacting in the slightest. i wanted to get outside opinions before i approach him with my concerns . Am I overreacting?

Submitted October 19, 2023 at 12:15AM

I (30f) Recently started talking to this guy (35m) in September of this year and things have been okay to say the least. A week after we first met, he asked me on a date, We met at a local restaurant that I’d never been to and was impressed. The date went really good and i enjoyed getting to know him (although he was a kind of quiet). We’ve been texting daily, and although sometimes the conversations get a little dry, I’ve been honestly enjoying talking to him.Now for the reason for my postThis Saturday that just passed, He invited me to his house for the first time for to hang out and for drinks (i told him about me leaving my job the previous Thursday and he recognized i needed a little pick me up) And while we were drinking he requested me to cook for him. Previously He asked me before through texting and i thought he was playing around (because it was like day 3 of us getting to know each other and i was like “booooy noo lol”) So when he asked me again it caught me a little of guard because i thought it was a strange request and because he was pushing the issue about me saying no to cooking for him in that moment, i opened up to him about some trauma i have around cooking. Growing up a boisterous but timid kid trying to learn to cook from a mother with no patience and quick to showcase her frustrations, resulted in a lot of trauma (that I’m currently in the process of working through). I kept my explanation short and sweet and I stated that “ because of my trauma around cooking, i don’t do it often only when I’m really feeling inspired, but i can cut df outta some grass” and i laughed. I then stated “cooking isn’t really my strong suit but, I’ll definitely help you. He stated that he understood and that i didn’t have to help. I stayed in the kitchen with him while he was cooking and it seemed like everything was okay. He ended up cooking without my help but i stayed in his space and just passed things to him that he might have needed, just to try to be as helpful as i could.Then yesterday, on Tuesday he posts on his on FB story “if she can’t cook, she gotta cut the grass…fuck that 😂😂😂🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️”. While the post by itself is harmless and without context was funny , it bothered me and for a while i didn’t know why but i say on it. It really hurt my feelings. I took it as a jab towards me because i felt like it was too much of a coincidence for it to be a repost being that THAT was the specific thing i opened up about. I talked to my mom about and she says that I’m overreacting and that he’s just trying to make people laugh and that I’m being too sensitive but i truly don’t know. I know that I’m sensitive, yet i don’t feel like I’m overreacting in the slightest. i wanted to get outside opinions before i approach him with my concerns . Am I overreacting?