I finally took the plunge and signed up for hinge. Got some decent pics and bio and have 10 matches (I read bios carefully and am selective in finding someone with similar values and hobbies) so these are solid matches. It feels like conversations in slow motion. I get a response so I reply with something relevant and ask a question in return then might get a response the next day. Responses are solid and show interest (mostly). This kind of slow back and forth is 9/10 of my matches. Am I just impatient? Approaching it wrong? Submitted September 01, 2023 at 12:15AM I finally took the plunge and signed up for hinge. Got some decent pics and bio and have 10 matches (I read bios carefully and am selective in finding someone with similar values and hobbies) so these are solid matches. It feels like conversations in slow motion. I get a response so I reply with something relevant and ask a question in return then might get a response the next day. Responses are solid and show interes...

Oh wow! So I’ve heard it before and just forgot lol. I grew up on Weird Al. Thanks for the info! August 30, 2023 at 11:30PM

Hi i(female) recently turned 18 a month ago and i started to use dating apps recently. The last relationship i had was during freshman yr of high school but it lasted only 2 weeks so literally i did not have my first kiss or had sex yet. Sex is the least of my concerns but im just worried if i will ever get a bf because i never really had a real relationship. I know i will find the right person later maybe but i dont even know how to talk to guys or flirt!!! But is it ok for me to talk to men on the dating apps first? Bec normally i like it when men approach me first. But some of these ppl dont start talkin after the match so should i engage first or wait? Submitted August 30, 2023 at 12:15AM Hi i(female) recently turned 18 a month ago and i started to use dating apps recently. The last relationship i had was during freshman yr of high school but it lasted only 2 weeks so literally i did not have my first kiss or had sex yet. Sex is the least of my concerns but im just worried i...

And I only did that because I found one man attractive. Im so paranoid about what can go wrong. Maybe that person isnt really gay and is making fun of me. Maybe that person will send my pics everywhere and then everybody will know that I am gay and that will fuck me up. Maybe he doesn‘t like me because I am obese. Its night rn and I cant sleep because I am so anxious. I am also nauseous. Like I have the feeling I am gonna puke. I am dissociating rn. There are so many scenarios going through my head and they all are paranoid and negative. Can someone calm me down please? Maybe via DM? Submitted August 29, 2023 at 12:17AM And I only did that because I found one man attractive. Im so paranoid about what can go wrong. Maybe that person isnt really gay and is making fun of me.Maybe that person will send my pics everywhere and then everybody will know that I am gay and that will fuck me up.Maybe he doesn‘t like me because I am obese. Its night rn and I cant sleep because I am s...

I haven't, but this is a good idea. Maybe I will try to join some online communities like discord or something. August 27, 2023 at 11:10PM

A friend(M) confided in me(F) about his dying relationship. The situation is as follows: My friend and his girl get together, and she later finds out through her aunt that her cousin likes my friend. Friend tells me that was her reason for breaking up with him. When he came to me, i told him they could simply go on if cousin hadn't come out to the girl to say it directly. He followed through with my advice and they get back for a few weeks or so. His girl talks to the aunt again, and her conscience suddenly gets to her again? She says what they're doing is wrong. I wanted to suggest the girl talk to her cousin about the guy directly but she doesn't seem willing to. The girl and i aren't really friends like that so i can't talk to her directly. Plus, it's not my friend's place to talk to the cousin. Is she really that considerate? Or is she just looking for reasons to break it off with him? What should i tell him? TLDR; My friend's gf is on and off with...

Am I being insensitive if I broke up with gf because she has anxiety? Both 30 F This is a very new relationship (2ish months) and things had been seemingly going well until they weren’t. She started to have anxiety during sex and I’d try to be understanding and comfort her. Things would end there, rightly so, I don’t want her to feel uncomfortable. But then it’d happen a few other times as well. She says it’s from past experiences and I’m not doing anything to cause her to feel anxious. Then I feel like she’s more invested than me and is talking future plans way in advance and I voiced my feelings about things going too fast. That caused her to become anxious because she thought I would have a different opinion of her after. I’ve been trying to be understanding of her situation but I’m not sure I can see myself wanting to deal with this if we were to continue. I feel like a selfish AH for having these thoughts. Is it selfish to break things off? Submitted August 27, 2023 at 12:04...

So here's my situation on August 4th I started talking to this girl we hit it off right away. Late night calls all day text there was a real connection and vibe. She told me and her best friend she really liked me. She came all the way almost 45 mins too come watch a horror movie with me she has never seen. We had even planned a second date too get a room and finish watching the rest of the movies. Plans fell through well I started college back on the 14th and after that she started getting distant. She didn't post on Facebook for a few days or post on Snap and she's barely talking to me or anyone said she's had alot mentally going on. Am I looking too much into this or do you think it's a ghost. FYI me and her are only 1 month apart and we both have a son from previous relationships. Just need advice specifically from females DM for more info Submitted August 27, 2023 at 12:04AM So here's my situation on August 4th I started talking to this girl we hit i...

So I [29M] recently had drinks with a woman [27], that I used to work with. I like her but I'm not sure where she stands with me, and not really sure what do next. But first I need to bring up the back story. When we worked together we kinda had this Jim and Pam thing from season 1 of the office. We both would flirt with each other but then kinda of give of confusing signals because work frowned on office romance. Honestly some of the stuff could have been considered sexual harassment if it was in a different context. I'll never forget this one time she walked past me in the hallway, put one hand on my shoulder one on my back and slid her hand down my arm and glanced at me longingly before walking away. Anyways, around that time I was leaving that job for another job, we went and grabbed drinks after work, twice. The last time she had a little bit too much to drink, demanded that I hug her before we leave and matter of factly told me we HAD to stay in touch after I left. We...

Boyfriend wants to be friends with a recent ex Started dating a guy soon after he broke up with his ex. We were friends first and he knew I had feelings for him. They were on again and off again and seems like couldn’t get a long. They broke up a month ago. We have told each other I love you and have been comfortable. Last night he reached out to his ex to hang out as friends. I said okay because I trust him. However she still has feelings for him and he says he loves her but only as a friend. She also is very attractive as I have seen pictures. I am a confident woman but am a little nervous about this situation. I also noticed he texted her this morning “I forgot how hot you are, as a friend a compliment is warranted when the occasion arises”. He didn’t think it was a big deal as he said he is with me and not her. He also said she was respectful and didn’t try anything but that he just enjoys her company as she is very smart and they have good conversations. Meaning they make better...

My grandmother was 16 when she married my grandfather (due to a pregnancy she miscarried), dropped out of school, and had my mom at 18 and my uncle at 20. She’s always excited to hear how my girlfriend got an education (two B.S. and a Ph.D in engineering) and has a career as a college educator, and how we’re enjoying ourselves as much as we can instead of having kids. August 25, 2023 at 11:02PM

She brought her boyfriend near her when i'm around. Almost as if he's her bodyguard to protect her. When he was never to be seen before. And she gives me aggressive stares every time she sees me now. I haven't spoken to her or said anything after the rejection. But i'm confused as to why she is so intimidated of me when I haven't even done anything weird. Am I supposed to do something to ease her suspicion of me? Submitted August 25, 2023 at 12:10AM She brought her boyfriend near her when i'm around. Almost as if he's her bodyguard to protect her. When he was never to be seen before. And she gives me aggressive stares every time she sees me now. I haven't spoken to her or said anything after the rejection. But i'm confused as to why she is so intimidated of me when I haven't even done anything weird. Am I supposed to do something to ease her suspicion of me?

I'm aegosexual, so I enjoy how it feels in the moment. After I finish, I usually just go back to what I was doing and pay it no more thought, haha. I don't really feel any shame or guilt from it, it's just a thing I do sometimes when I'm bored or need to kill time while my conditioner sets in my hair. Sometimes I get a little annoyed if I feel it took too long, but that's about it, really. August 23, 2023 at 10:57PM

I literally didn't watch Food Wars for this very reason. Doesn't help that the majority of the characters are minors. August 22, 2023 at 11:33PM

Thank you it's so obviously fake and gross August 21, 2023 at 10:51PM

Not wanting children is one of the reasons why I'm asexual. August 21, 2023 at 10:50PM

I’m sex indifferent and romance repulsed aroace. If I think someone if romantically interested then yes I do feel quite uncomfortable, the idea of me dating anyone makes me feel gross and I guess someone telling me they think about me that way is an extension of that. If someone is interested in me sexually then I don’t really feel anything either way, except perhaps mildly guilty that I don’t feel anything back. That said, if I turn them down then that feels a bit awkward (but just in the same way as if you say no when someone offers you some food and you don’t want it, like you’re being ungrateful) and if I accept then I worry they’ll want something more (but that’s mostly me being romance repulsed). Ask your partner, they’ll know best as it varies massively from person to person August 20, 2023 at 11:33PM

Oh man, the daddy/mommy/baby sexy thing just is really incomprehensible. I just do not understand how people can do that without connotations of incest/pedophilia. It squicks me every time. Had a friend argue that Daddy was just so very obviously different from referring to any actual Dad and it shouldn’t bug me. She overshared about her sex life and used Daddy a lot. I asked her how she’d feel if I said Grandpa was getting lucky tonight because of my new toy and lingerie purchase to celebrate my birthday. She said that was different, and huffed off. August 19, 2023 at 11:28PM

Well because I’m asexual and I also don’t date people. Because honestly usually you date people to meet someone to have sex, if you’re Allo, which is most of culture. I guess I just happen to be both some degree of aromantic and also ace. 🤷🏻 August 19, 2023 at 11:27PM

Oh, I got mine from TheQueenTom also on Etsy lol August 18, 2023 at 11:24PM

Hi am I a 32M I came out of a 10 year relationship last year and after a few months I met someone, a foreigner 37F female. She had 2 kids and lots her job mid relationship period and was not able to find a new job. After 5 months of me supporting her and her kids and me draining all of my savings, plus tons of pressure from my family I left her. It was a messy breakup because she didn't accept it well, but after 3 weeks I met someone, a 33F with a very similar personality to mine and we have been hitting it up fantastically well, everything between us matches even our life goals, she is also a foreigner. My mom accidentally found out I was talking to this girl and so I came clean because of last dramas. My mom got super upset saying, "here I go again getting crazy about the first person I meet and how I should meet people offline." And that she is a foreigner and all she wants is to take advantage of me. Also she is full of tattoos and my parents are old fashioned and ha...

Hi! I’m in Oregon! August 16, 2023 at 11:19PM

I (24m) have been seeing a girl (20f) that I met at work. There are days where I see her as the prettiest girl and can’t stop smiling when I talk to her. Then there are days where I just see a person. Sometimes I just hangout with her to have company. Is this normal? I really don’t want to hurt her feelings if all my feelings fade away. Please someone give me feedback. Submitted August 16, 2023 at 12:15AM I (24m) have been seeing a girl (20f) that I met at work.There are days where I see her as the prettiest girl and can’t stop smiling when I talk to her. Then there are days where I just see a person. Sometimes I just hangout with her to have company.Is this normal? I really don’t want to hurt her feelings if all my feelings fade away. Please someone give me feedback.

My entire life I have been overweight and had a horrible personality. Over the past 3 years I’ve lost 100+ lbs and gained a personality with hobbies and friends. Now that I’ve joined the dating scene I’m not used to men only wanting me for my body. I can’t distinguish men that only want me for sex and men that actually want to date me. It seems that when I was “ugly” at least I could tell when a man was genuinely interested in me. Now I have men straight up lying to my face about their intentions and I don’t know what to do. I’m feeling a lot of burn out and a lot of frustration now that I’m actually trying to find a partner. How does everybody else navigate the dating world as a mildly attractive woman? Submitted August 15, 2023 at 12:11AM My entire life I have been overweight and had a horrible personality. Over the past 3 years I’ve lost 100+ lbs and gained a personality with hobbies and friends. Now that I’ve joined the dating scene I’m not used to men only wanting me for my...

AHHH IT LOOKS SOOO GOOD August 13, 2023 at 11:26PM

I told a few people so they would stop pressuring me to date. First time with my mom was an accident. August 13, 2023 at 11:25PM

I'm lucky I rarely have to deal with a libido at all these days. As long as I avoid people/media that turns me on I simply expirience nothing. It's so nice. August 12, 2023 at 11:16PM

So some context first. Australian, male, 24 soon. I struggle with dating. I've been on a single date this year with a repeat customer at the place I work at (mistake learnt. Don't date customers). I've read over loads of advice however I haven't acted on much of it. In my head, the whole 'join a community' thing could work but I don't think so based on the following. I'm far better one on one than in groups. I'm getting the attention I want (again, problem I know) and it's easier to keep the conversation going and making it great. In groups, I'm the timid one. Quiet, reserved and no one pays attention to me (I'm basing this on my observations, which I'm totally aware are limites). Being timid has also stopped me from asking out women in the past (not entirely, I was adventurous about a month ago with one woman (asking her if I could give her my number), but she had a boyfriend already). Dating apps could work, however I've had...

So, I'm closing in on 40 REALLLLL FAST. I'm a completely normal dude, a bit below average on the looks department (5'7'' bald, a bit overweight, just being honest) which is fine, we all have our struggles dating and I'm working on the one thing I can control which is my weight. That being said, is it unrealistic to want a woman to have similar interests as I? I'm black, I think it matters in this context, and I really love anime, manga, metal music, philosophy. I find very few women in my age bracket really like those things or wanna chill and enjoy those sorts of entertainment. It's just kinda weird enjoying someone else's sources of entertainment but not really being able to connect with my own. IS this unrealistic? Should I just get over it? Anyone with experience with it? Submitted August 12, 2023 at 12:08AM So, I'm closing in on 40 REALLLLL FAST. I'm a completely normal dude, a bit below average on the looks department (5'7...

I’ve been told I look good and handsome by classmates and coworkers alike (Interns and bosses too) and I’ve had girls in the past that were attracted to me and want to know me better. I somewhat have my shit together with a full-time job, part-time uni and a gym habit too. It’s a struggle each day to balance things. Problem is that early on they ask me about my childhood which is well fairly dark. Abuse, neglect, eating disorders and CSA. I try to be honest which eventually kills their attraction to me. Like they start viewing me as less of a romantic partner over time. Can I lie and just make things up about my childhood? I feel like the common denominator is me oversharing. Submitted August 12, 2023 at 12:13AM I’ve been told I look good and handsome by classmates and coworkers alike (Interns and bosses too) and I’ve had girls in the past that were attracted to me and want to know me better.I somewhat have my shit together with a full-time job, part-time uni and a gym habit ...

Question is there certain bios and pictures that respond well with women I know I'm handsome but no luck at all Submitted August 12, 2023 at 12:14AM Question is there certain bios and pictures that respond well with women I know I'm handsome but no luck at all

Alright so I’ve been working at my current job for about 6 months. When I first started I noticed this one girl that works as a cashier, and I immediately was on a mission to talk to her. It’s tougher than it sounds though because I work way in the back of the store, so I have limited opportunities. I get the idea she at least finds me attractive, she’ll go out of her way to talk by me and give me a chance to talk to her and she is ALWAYS staring at me. I managed to talk to her for a couple of minutes the other day and I had her laughing and all that. Obviously the goal would be to get her phone # or Snapchat or something (yes I’m young enough to ask for somebody’s Snapchat) but obviously I barely know her and I’d prefer to avoid any awkward situation honestly. I’ve been single for like a year after a 4 year relationship so I’m rusty as hell. Any pointers?? What’s the best thing to do?? Submitted August 12, 2023 at 12:15AM Alright so I’ve been working at my current job for about...

God knows what was on her mind but atleast have the decency to tell others that it’s over rather than just ghost them Submitted August 11, 2023 at 12:16AM God knows what was on her mind but atleast have the decency to tell others that it’s over rather than just ghost them

Kind of new to dating. I have an image in my mind of traits and characteristics I’m looking for but not much of a list as far as red flags go. What do you tend to look out for? What’s something that if someone said or did it you would immediately pass even if you thought they were otherwise great? Submitted August 10, 2023 at 12:09AM Kind of new to dating. I have an image in my mind of traits and characteristics I’m looking for but not much of a list as far as red flags go. What do you tend to look out for? What’s something that if someone said or did it you would immediately pass even if you thought they were otherwise great?

I’m in my early 30s, she’s in her 20s. We both live in Canada. We will be going on our first date at a Moroccan restaurant that I chose. When I told her where I wanted to take her to dinner, she said I was bold in a seemingly pleasant way (I hope?) . Do you have any advice on how to impress her besides common knowledge of do’s and don’ts in dates? She said one of the things that she admires in men is effort, hence the Moroccan restaurant idea. Bearing this in mind, should I wear a suit or should I rock a tucked in dress shirt with khaki pants? Offer to pick her up with my car from her place? Or would she frown at the offer? Clean shaven or 5 o’clock shadow? Fresh short haircut or medium length hair? I’m really interested in her. Any advice is welcome. Thanks. Submitted August 09, 2023 at 12:17AM I’m in my early 30s, she’s in her 20s. We both live in Canada. We will be going on our first date at a Moroccan restaurant that I chose. When I told her where I wanted to take her to di...

I'm a demi-panromantic asexual (meaning while I don't experience sexual attraction to anyone, I can develop romantic attraction towards people regardless of gender) and I'm in a happy relationship with another asexual. Asexuality means no sexual attraction. You can still be in a relationship or do whatever you want. You can have sex, be kinky, have a child. You can do all those things. Just not be sexually attracted to someone August 07, 2023 at 11:03PM

It’s definitely annoying, I honestly don’t mind most genuine questions because I would prefer people not make assumptions. HOWEVER a lot of the time these "questions" are actually invalidating statements, Infantilisation or just straight up invasive & uneducated. ( Aren’t you supposed to be asexual ?, are you confused? you wouldn’t understand all this sex stuff, can you even orgasm? How do you even masturbate if you don’t have a sex drive ) August 06, 2023 at 10:57PM

I was talking to some Asian boys on a dating site. Why Chinese/ Korean boys always prefer talking on telegram over snap or instagram? Is this a scam or something? Seeking advise! TIA 🙏 Submitted August 06, 2023 at 12:14AM I was talking to some Asian boys on a dating site. Why Chinese/ Korean boys always prefer talking on telegram over snap or instagram? Is this a scam or something? Seeking advise! TIA 🙏

i’m autosexual & on the ace spectrum. i first noticed this in 2019 & told my friends & i didnt like their reactions (one of them said it was weird) so i shut down any possibility of me being autosexual. last year i realised i was asexual & that i don’t experience sexual attraction to others, & months later the idea of me possibly being autosexual came up again when i saw some tiktok of someone talking abt it, & a comment mentioned that autosexuals r on the ace spectrum !!! i kind of want to tell ppl but ive already spent over a year explaining asexuality to ppl. idk if im ready to spend another year explaining autosexuality & be told im confused or narcissistic, esp wen asexuality itself is already misunderstood / unheard of. August 04, 2023 at 11:16PM

Well take the chip off your shoulder, it's not my fault you're like that, so stop taking it out on other people You literally did the exact same thing, so be mad at yourself August 03, 2023 at 11:26PM

Sorry what? I did nothing wrong by replying to you, what's your problem? August 03, 2023 at 11:25PM

Ok but unlike u im commenting on the post not initiating a conversation with someone- so no it doesnt go both ways. Stop bothering me August 03, 2023 at 11:24PM

So, a girl I work with I think likes me. Now she will sit with me over everyone including her father on all our breaks. We have good conversations, and she makes the effort to keep the conversation going. The confusion for me is once we are working, she will purposely ignore me, refuse to look at me if she thinks I will see, but I catch her when I have my back to her. She will also find excuses to walk near, next and by me but completely ignore me looking everywhere but at me but can tell she’s trying to see me in her peripherals. I guess why she does this, I have never experienced this before. Submitted August 03, 2023 at 12:16AM So, a girl I work with I think likes me. Now she will sit with me over everyone including her father on all our breaks. We have good conversations, and she makes the effort to keep the conversation going. The confusion for me is once we are working, she will purposely ignore me, refuse to look at me if she thinks I will see, but I catch her when I have...

I’m aroace and like bondage. Have an open conversation with her about what you are and aren’t comfortable with. You’re both allowed hard limits, but these need to be communicated. She sent you a check list? You’ve already spotted things you know you refuse to do? Great. You have the start of the talk. Don’t let her talk you into anything you don’t feel comfortable with, some of what you’ve listed can be a lot even for an experienced Dom. And I’m side eying the breath play listing. That shit is dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing. Bondage can be great because it’s intimate. But you’re also putting a lot of trust in each other. Go slowly, try not to push yourself. Your feelings are just as important as hers and you have the right to stop the session if you’re also overwhelmed. But I’m sure it’ll be fine, Just remember to always communicate what you are and aren’t comfortable with and stick to what you agreed. Also, and I can’t stress this enough, make sure you both know th...

Obviously in the bi example, the bisexual person can still reciprocate their current partner's sexual attraction so it isn't the same with a gay person and a straight one. Or an allo and an ace, since the sexual attraction in these two situations isn't mutual. But thing is most people want their sexual desire for their partner to be reciprocated (because most people are allo), so if they find out the partner doesn't desire them the same way they do they feel lied to. August 01, 2023 at 11:32PM