Why did he suddenly stop interacting with me?

Ok pls be kind to me bc ik i might sound delusional but i’m gonna be honest abt how i feel 😭

A few months back i met up with this guy from a dating app. It was both of our first time meeting someone from an app (his acc was labeled with “new here” and from my perspective, we got along really well. He seemed shy/nervous at first (he stuttered a bit when answering my initial questions) but i felt like he loosened up as we talked more because he got comfy and more confident. This guy also hardly broke eye contact, every time i spoke he really /looked/ at me and listened to me and understood me. Im usually bad with eye contact but with him i could keep looking at his eyes for a long time, smth i havent experienced before

Take note we were both travelling, and in a foreign country weve never been to before. So we walked around til midnight seeing different sites and before parting ways, he asked for my instagram and suggested we meet up in another city, since by chance we were both going to that city on the same date. He dropped me off and i leaned in for a casual one arm hug but he ended up hugging me with both arms for quite some time. It was a nice embrace honestly

After following me he liked my recent post but didnt make any move to set the actual plans for the next date. I figured maybe he was waiting for me to make the first move so on the day of us being in the same city, i asked him if he still wanted to meet up and he said yes, i picked a place and he took initiative to make the reservations

We met again, got to know each other even better, and while walking around he put his hand over my shoulder, later on my waist. I held his arm but got shy to move down to his hand, our hands brushed at some point but he didnt take initiative to hold it, our hands were just dangling side by side for awhile 🤣he didnt make any move to kiss so before parting ways, i asked him if he wanted to, he said yes and i went for it lol

I also said smth pretty dramatic abt how i wanna kiss him bc we might not see each other again. After kissing (for a p long time) he said he might visit me in my country. He even gave a specific month of when he might come

But after all that, he never bothered to reach out to me, not even a simple like on any of my posts or stories. Even though he always views my stories

2 months pass and i still cant get this guy out of my head, though ive accepted hes probably not that into me. But i decided, for sake of making things clear, to let him know how thankful i was for the 2 dates (bc they rlly did help me emotionally) in case he didnt realize it. He responded right away with a thoughtful msg abt how he appreciated meeting me too. After that, no contact at all again, and no more plans of seeing me in my country

I guess im posting this to ask why he bothered saying these things if he acts like hes not interested? Or is there smth im not seeing here? Haha i cant get him out of my head bc i felt such a deep connection with him, even tho ik it sounds silly 😭

Submitted June 03, 2023 at 12:14AM

Ok pls be kind to me bc ik i might sound delusional but i’m gonna be honest abt how i feel 😭A few months back i met up with this guy from a dating app. It was both of our first time meeting someone from an app (his acc was labeled with “new here” and from my perspective, we got along really well. He seemed shy/nervous at first (he stuttered a bit when answering my initial questions) but i felt like he loosened up as we talked more because he got comfy and more confident. This guy also hardly broke eye contact, every time i spoke he really /looked/ at me and listened to me and understood me. Im usually bad with eye contact but with him i could keep looking at his eyes for a long time, smth i havent experienced beforeTake note we were both travelling, and in a foreign country weve never been to before. So we walked around til midnight seeing different sites and before parting ways, he asked for my instagram and suggested we meet up in another city, since by chance we were both going to that city on the same date. He dropped me off and i leaned in for a casual one arm hug but he ended up hugging me with both arms for quite some time. It was a nice embrace honestlyAfter following me he liked my recent post but didnt make any move to set the actual plans for the next date. I figured maybe he was waiting for me to make the first move so on the day of us being in the same city, i asked him if he still wanted to meet up and he said yes, i picked a place and he took initiative to make the reservationsWe met again, got to know each other even better, and while walking around he put his hand over my shoulder, later on my waist. I held his arm but got shy to move down to his hand, our hands brushed at some point but he didnt take initiative to hold it, our hands were just dangling side by side for awhile 🤣he didnt make any move to kiss so before parting ways, i asked him if he wanted to, he said yes and i went for it lolI also said smth pretty dramatic abt how i wanna kiss him bc we might not see each other again. After kissing (for a p long time) he said he might visit me in my country. He even gave a specific month of when he might comeBut after all that, he never bothered to reach out to me, not even a simple like on any of my posts or stories. Even though he always views my stories 2 months pass and i still cant get this guy out of my head, though ive accepted hes probably not that into me. But i decided, for sake of making things clear, to let him know how thankful i was for the 2 dates (bc they rlly did help me emotionally) in case he didnt realize it. He responded right away with a thoughtful msg abt how he appreciated meeting me too. After that, no contact at all again, and no more plans of seeing me in my countryI guess im posting this to ask why he bothered saying these things if he acts like hes not interested? Or is there smth im not seeing here? Haha i cant get him out of my head bc i felt such a deep connection with him, even tho ik it sounds silly 😭