Two Great First Dates that Suddenly Turns into No Third Date

Met a girl on hinge. Talked for a while. Got along well, texted for a week pretty much every day. Asked her on a date.

Had a first date - drinks and dessert. Went great really vibed and ended up spending like 2.5 hours together (really expected maybe an hour or so long originally). She messaged me on hinge within minutes of the date ending (I was driving home) that she had a great time and sent her number. Amazing.

Date #2: Got dinner and drinks. Ended up spending like 3.5-4 hours talking and hanging out. Really vibed. Closed down a restaurant together that night. Kissed her goodbye in the parking lot. Again went really well.

We text pretty much every day. A few days after the date (Saturday night) she was texting telling me to come over and cook with her but I was away (out of state) at a wedding so I couldn't. It was awesome though basically sexting and I'm feeling great about how things are going and that she's really into me.

The next day we dont talk much because she gets kinda quiet over text which didnt seem too weird at the time.

Today I text her to set up date #3 which I all but assume is a guarantee. She takes all day to reply and says she wants to be honest with me and doesn't think she's in a place to date right now because she just got out of a relationship and doesn't want to waste my time. She apologies a few times and I tell her all is good; she has my number if she ever finds herself in the right place to date again.

I really liked this girl and I guess I'm wondering if she was letting me down easy and I shouldn't waste my time waiting around for her or if there might actually be something there and she was being honest about her conflicting emotions to the situation and not being ready to date. It really caught me off gaurd and kinda hurt because I was starting to get some feelings for her.



Submitted June 06, 2023 at 01:15AM

Met a girl on hinge. Talked for a while. Got along well, texted for a week pretty much every day. Asked her on a date.Had a first date - drinks and dessert. Went great really vibed and ended up spending like 2.5 hours together (really expected maybe an hour or so long originally). She messaged me on hinge within minutes of the date ending (I was driving home) that she had a great time and sent her number. Amazing.Date #2: Got dinner and drinks. Ended up spending like 3.5-4 hours talking and hanging out. Really vibed. Closed down a restaurant together that night. Kissed her goodbye in the parking lot. Again went really well.We text pretty much every day. A few days after the date (Saturday night) she was texting telling me to come over and cook with her but I was away (out of state) at a wedding so I couldn't. It was awesome though basically sexting and I'm feeling great about how things are going and that she's really into me.The next day we dont talk much because she gets kinda quiet over text which didnt seem too weird at the time.Today I text her to set up date #3 which I all but assume is a guarantee. She takes all day to reply and says she wants to be honest with me and doesn't think she's in a place to date right now because she just got out of a relationship and doesn't want to waste my time. She apologies a few times and I tell her all is good; she has my number if she ever finds herself in the right place to date again.I really liked this girl and I guess I'm wondering if she was letting me down easy and I shouldn't waste my time waiting around for her or if there might actually be something there and she was being honest about her conflicting emotions to the situation and not being ready to date. It really caught me off gaurd and kinda hurt because I was starting to get some feelings for her.
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