She didn’twant a relationship so I moved on.. don’t know if it was the right thing

I was dating this girl for three months before we got to the point to define things… during our conversation she explained to me that she had just got out from a long term relationship just months before ( from my understand there relationship was more than 5 years long and probably her only love) and she couldn’t jump into a serious relationship at the moment but we could be friends. I refused the friendship and told her that l contact me if she changed mind about dating in general or when she was ready to be date again.. still after 3 months from that moment never got a text from her.. I am here contemplating if first of all I should have accepted her proposal to be friends for the time being until she was ready or if I should just reach out and see how she reacts.

Reason why I am conflicted is I was surprised to find out only after 3 months that she had just got out from a serious relationship, if I had known before I probably would have acted differently instead of being more emotionally vulnerable. I wasn’t necessarily looking for something serious but after 3 months i was ready to progress things but I didn’t wanna force on her. Lastly during our encounters I knew something was up, she was playing hard to get ( like replying late to my texts or being cold to my physical approach), but she kept wanting to go out with me so I thought she liked me but maybe she was on her guard or scared to fall in love. I started to go out and talk with other girls after her but none of them made me feel that special feeling when you like someone.. and I just don’t know if I should have done something different or if it is better like this and time will heel everything. Lastly the one thing that r really threw me off is that I found out that her long term ex is still around because they have a bunch of mutual friends so they hang out all in groups together sometime.. so that made me think that maybe eventually they could try to get back together and I was just a rebound



Submitted May 02, 2023 at 01:16AM

I was dating this girl for three months before we got to the point to define things… during our conversation she explained to me that she had just got out from a long term relationship just months before ( from my understand there relationship was more than 5 years long and probably her only love) and she couldn’t jump into a serious relationship at the moment but we could be friends. I refused the friendship and told her that l contact me if she changed mind about dating in general or when she was ready to be date again.. still after 3 months from that moment never got a text from her.. I am here contemplating if first of all I should have accepted her proposal to be friends for the time being until she was ready or if I should just reach out and see how she reacts.Reason why I am conflicted is I was surprised to find out only after 3 months that she had just got out from a serious relationship, if I had known before I probably would have acted differently instead of being more emotionally vulnerable. I wasn’t necessarily looking for something serious but after 3 months i was ready to progress things but I didn’t wanna force on her. Lastly during our encounters I knew something was up, she was playing hard to get ( like replying late to my texts or being cold to my physical approach), but she kept wanting to go out with me so I thought she liked me but maybe she was on her guard or scared to fall in love. I started to go out and talk with other girls after her but none of them made me feel that special feeling when you like someone.. and I just don’t know if I should have done something different or if it is better like this and time will heel everything. Lastly the one thing that r really threw me off is that I found out that her long term ex is still around because they have a bunch of mutual friends so they hang out all in groups together sometime.. so that made me think that maybe eventually they could try to get back together and I was just a rebound
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