Confusing signals…don’t know what to think

Long story short. Used to work with this guy, had a crush on him, couldn’t tell him because he was dating another coworker at the time, I quit that job months later.

After a couple years he liked one of my Instagram pics which triggered me to reach out (bad bad idea, 0 out of 10 don’t recommend doing this). Well, we started talking again for a few months only to find out he was still dating the girl from earlier.

I ghosted him after that and that was the end of it. Or so I thought.

**

Then another couple years go by and he liked another Instagram pic, this time thought I didn’t bother reaching out because by that time he had moved on and was with another girl completely. Actually shortly after I ghosted him. then he liked a second pic and then a third and then a fourth and a fifth and then wouldn’t stop watching my stories. So I reached out and told him he was making it hard for me to ignore him. Basically I told I him I was trying to move on.

Then that lead to a rather flirty / sassy conversation in response. Mainly on his end. Then the next day I just asked how he was to make sure he wasn’t going through anything stressful that was making him act out like this. (I say act out because he has never done this before and it was mildly concerning)

Now it’s been a few days and he won’t reply to my Snapchats or messages at all but is still watching all of my Instagram stories.

Then I found out that he unliked all of the pictures he had previously liked but instead of blocking me or un adding me on Instagram we are still following each other.

He kept one liked picture but upon checking hours later he unliked that picture as well. But we’re still following each other, he didn’t block me or unfriend me. And is still continuing to watch my stories. All of them, almost instantly too.

What’s he doing? Am I going crazy? Is this a thing guys do? It’s driving me insane and I’m a level headed person.

THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR FIVE YEARS



Submitted May 02, 2023 at 12:17AM

Long story short. Used to work with this guy, had a crush on him, couldn’t tell him because he was dating another coworker at the time, I quit that job months later.After a couple years he liked one of my Instagram pics which triggered me to reach out (bad bad idea, 0 out of 10 don’t recommend doing this). Well, we started talking again for a few months only to find out he was still dating the girl from earlier. I ghosted him after that and that was the end of it. Or so I thought.**Then another couple years go by and he liked another Instagram pic, this time thought I didn’t bother reaching out because by that time he had moved on and was with another girl completely. Actually shortly after I ghosted him. then he liked a second pic and then a third and then a fourth and a fifth and then wouldn’t stop watching my stories. So I reached out and told him he was making it hard for me to ignore him. Basically I told I him I was trying to move on. Then that lead to a rather flirty / sassy conversation in response. Mainly on his end. Then the next day I just asked how he was to make sure he wasn’t going through anything stressful that was making him act out like this. (I say act out because he has never done this before and it was mildly concerning)Now it’s been a few days and he won’t reply to my Snapchats or messages at all but is still watching all of my Instagram stories. Then I found out that he unliked all of the pictures he had previously liked but instead of blocking me or un adding me on Instagram we are still following each other. He kept one liked picture but upon checking hours later he unliked that picture as well. But we’re still following each other, he didn’t block me or unfriend me. And is still continuing to watch my stories. All of them, almost instantly too.What’s he doing? Am I going crazy? Is this a thing guys do? It’s driving me insane and I’m a level headed person.THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR FIVE YEARS
Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Add Comments, Posts, Links... etc.

Popular posts from this blog

The difference between being right and being understood

My boyfriend and I are 28. We’ve been together for about 1.5 years and recently moved in together. He’s a pretty patient and easygoing person (Type B) whereas I’m more particular (Type A). Of course there are two sides to every trait, and my Type A nature benefits us in some ways too. Like all couples, we have differences in perspective or preference. When this happens, he will usually say something like “I disagree (with your perspective) but fine.” I tend to push the issue in an attempt to get him to understand where I’m coming from. This escalates the disagreement into a fight because he perceives it as me trying to be “right”. I truly just want to be understood (and I want to understand where he’s coming from) so I’m looking for more of a dialogue whereas he avoids conflict and just wants it to be over as quickly as possible. His general approach is “agree to disagree” but that doesn’t make sense to me when it’s an issue that will keep coming up and requires compromise. I’m n...
Read more

My (27f) gf (27f) is getting tired of me not sharing intimate/ personal info about me

I’ve always been extremely private and introverted. We have more than a year together and we’ve been living together for like 6 months, we get along pretty good and I’m really in love with her, however I can not seem to open up... and I can tell it’s frustrating to her by the way she tells me it bothers her that she feels she’s the only one committed and the one that’s always sharing... At this point I don’t even know if it is that I’ve gotten too used to it, to the point I’ve became lazy to talk about myself or give any genuine personal opinion... it sucks, really, I need to communicate better... Where do I start? Tl;dr: I can’t be completely intimate with my gf and its frustrating her, I need to communicate better because I really love her... where to start? Submitted April 25, 2019 at 06:02AM I’ve always been extremely private and introverted. We have more than a year together and we’ve been living together for like 6 months, we get along pretty good and I’m really in love ...
Read more

My (23M) girlfriend (25F) relationship is confusing to me. I might be the problem, or maybe we are just incompatible.

I met my girlfriend after a few serious breakups that led me to change both intentionally and unintentionally over a few years. For better and for worse. She had just gotten out of an engagement with a verbally and physically abusive man who had a cocaine problem. We have been together about 8 months now. We hit it off and spent a lot of time together but she began to push our relationship as if there were a time clock for milestones. I was pressed beyond my comfort zone and went with it because of my affection for her. My living situation fell apart and I lost a few thousand dollars to shit roommates right around the time she and I met and she offered to let me stay with her. I agreed with some resistance. I pay for food, help her with bills, and throw money toward rent while trying to get back on my feet. As long as we have been together she has gotten more possessive, angry, and irrational. She is dealing with shit from her engagement and I feel shes looking for a level of seriou...
Read more