How do I think of things to talk about with girls?

A bit of a pathetic post, but here goes....

I'd say that on default, I lean towards the shy side, but can easily chat once I get into the 'zone', find common ground, bouncing off each other well etc.

But for the life of me, sometimes I literally - and I stress this - cannot think of a single thing to talk about. Not one topic. I just go blank.

Last weekend I was hitting it off with a girl, a bit of a laugh, and a flirt etc. All seemed like it was going well. We ended up going to a friends house later on that night to party etc. We got there and the vibe was fairly low-key and chill.

Now, I was basically in her company at the house for a good hour or so, and talking with friends etc. But in terms of 1 on 1 chat, I went blank. Absolutely blank. I couldn't think of one thing to say, or a way to fluently make conversation without it seeming forced/weird, if that makes sense.

To be fair, I think she had also absolutely hit the wall, so I think she was in a similar boat. But be that as it may, I definitely feel like I kind of scuffed my chance at the time, and could've done more to salvage it. We were both pretty drunk at the time too, which didn't help the brain in coming up with anything...

Does anyone experience anything similar? If so, how did you combat it, and what are some general good prompts/topics to discuss when you don't have much to work with/discuss?

Submitted May 08, 2023 at 12:16AM

A bit of a pathetic post, but here goes....I'd say that on default, I lean towards the shy side, but can easily chat once I get into the 'zone', find common ground, bouncing off each other well etc. But for the life of me, sometimes I literally - and I stress this - cannot think of a single thing to talk about. Not one topic. I just go blank.Last weekend I was hitting it off with a girl, a bit of a laugh, and a flirt etc. All seemed like it was going well. We ended up going to a friends house later on that night to party etc. We got there and the vibe was fairly low-key and chill. Now, I was basically in her company at the house for a good hour or so, and talking with friends etc. But in terms of 1 on 1 chat, I went blank. Absolutely blank. I couldn't think of one thing to say, or a way to fluently make conversation without it seeming forced/weird, if that makes sense. To be fair, I think she had also absolutely hit the wall, so I think she was in a similar boat. But be that as it may, I definitely feel like I kind of scuffed my chance at the time, and could've done more to salvage it. We were both pretty drunk at the time too, which didn't help the brain in coming up with anything...Does anyone experience anything similar? If so, how did you combat it, and what are some general good prompts/topics to discuss when you don't have much to work with/discuss?