SHOULD I CONFESS

Good day, guys! I am (20M) and there is this girl that's been going through my mind lately. I can't even sleep because I overthink about her. We've known each other since (March 2022) and we are close friends and classmates. We used to help each other a lot during the pandemic when we had online classes. She is always there for me back then and we used to joke a lot with each other during that time. I never showed my feelings because I'm scared that I might mess up this great friendship that we have. We open up to each other, we even talk late at night during the quarantine. She also ask me if I like her in a friendly way but I always jokingly shook it off. We met once during the pandemic during a group activity and I can't understand her because she can't look me in the eye. I struggle to understand her because I think she is shy whenever she is with me. But it's a different mood online because she is very talkative with me. Our circle of friends always joke that we should be careful since our jokes might turn into a relationship.

She also used to tell me stories about her life during our online classes and I know a lot about her and I remember that she want to give me a bracelet but I declined. I never had a girlfriend but she had past relationships. I am comfortable saying that I am a good man who doesn't mess around with girls unless I'm serious with them. Our online classes started this year and I always find her avoiding eye contact with me but she still jokes around with me and sometimes pokes me whenever we are with each other or some friends but not in class. Recently I started to joke around our circle of friends that some girls in the university are adding me. I also noticed that she rarely laughs at our conversation anymore and we stopped talking for a while recently because she joked about something personal to me and I flicked her on her hands. I told her I'm sorry and I want to make it up to her but she ignored me for a while and also ignored her but she told me I'm sorry and that she overreacted. I told her that she doesn't deserve what I did to her and I need some time to reflect. We became friends again but our conversations on chat became bland. We still talk but it's not like before. I tried to ask out during lunchtime but I'm not sure about her reaction and we only eat with our circle of friends. I told her that I doubt myself when it comes to relationships at this time (even though I like her) but sometimes she still does the first move on chats and asks me random things (but it's not like before). I try my best to show her I'm not desperate for her attention.

I reflected on myself to this nonsense path that I'm doing to her and now I want to confess. I want to tell her the truth since March of 2022 and tell her how I appreciated her attention back then. I'm tired of lying and being quiet and I want to confess to her tomorrow that I asked her to get lunch yesterday. This feeling that I have doesn't make me sleep at night and it's breaking me down slowly, I always overthink about her. I guess you only appreciate someone when that person starts to steer away from you. Please don't make the same mistakes I did, I love you guys!

Questions

  • Should I confess to her? (this is my first time)
  • How should I do it tomorrow?

(I would appreciate your answers and I'm open if you tell me your experiences similar to this one)

this is my first time asking other people online*



Submitted March 19, 2023 at 01:08AM

Good day, guys! I am (20M) and there is this girl that's been going through my mind lately. I can't even sleep because I overthink about her. We've known each other since (March 2022) and we are close friends and classmates. We used to help each other a lot during the pandemic when we had online classes. She is always there for me back then and we used to joke a lot with each other during that time. I never showed my feelings because I'm scared that I might mess up this great friendship that we have. We open up to each other, we even talk late at night during the quarantine. She also ask me if I like her in a friendly way but I always jokingly shook it off. We met once during the pandemic during a group activity and I can't understand her because she can't look me in the eye. I struggle to understand her because I think she is shy whenever she is with me. But it's a different mood online because she is very talkative with me. Our circle of friends always joke that we should be careful since our jokes might turn into a relationship.She also used to tell me stories about her life during our online classes and I know a lot about her and I remember that she want to give me a bracelet but I declined. I never had a girlfriend but she had past relationships. I am comfortable saying that I am a good man who doesn't mess around with girls unless I'm serious with them. Our online classes started this year and I always find her avoiding eye contact with me but she still jokes around with me and sometimes pokes me whenever we are with each other or some friends but not in class. Recently I started to joke around our circle of friends that some girls in the university are adding me. I also noticed that she rarely laughs at our conversation anymore and we stopped talking for a while recently because she joked about something personal to me and I flicked her on her hands. I told her I'm sorry and I want to make it up to her but she ignored me for a while and also ignored her but she told me I'm sorry and that she overreacted. I told her that she doesn't deserve what I did to her and I need some time to reflect. We became friends again but our conversations on chat became bland. We still talk but it's not like before. I tried to ask out during lunchtime but I'm not sure about her reaction and we only eat with our circle of friends. I told her that I doubt myself when it comes to relationships at this time (even though I like her) but sometimes she still does the first move on chats and asks me random things (but it's not like before). I try my best to show her I'm not desperate for her attention.I reflected on myself to this nonsense path that I'm doing to her and now I want to confess. I want to tell her the truth since March of 2022 and tell her how I appreciated her attention back then. I'm tired of lying and being quiet and I want to confess to her tomorrow that I asked her to get lunch yesterday. This feeling that I have doesn't make me sleep at night and it's breaking me down slowly, I always overthink about her. I guess you only appreciate someone when that person starts to steer away from you. Please don't make the same mistakes I did, I love you guys!QuestionsShould I confess to her? (this is my first time)How should I do it tomorrow?(I would appreciate your answers and I'm open if you tell me your experiences similar to this one)this is my first time asking other people online*
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