Guy who yelled at me for kissing my guy friend keeps asking to meet one on one - should I meet or decline if I keep feeling annoyed?

I get so irritated when I think of this guy that I used to confide in until he suddenly blew up at me for kissing my friend who he “hates” for insulting his job. I was so mad when he overreacted to a decision I had full right to make that has nothing to do with him. I was like why the fuck is he yelling at me if he’s pissed at that guy. While I did stay at his place years ago when I visited town (he has roommates), I see him purely as a friend and just needed somewhere to stay. Then months later he asked to stay at my place for days when I wasn’t even home, even trespassing my bedroom where the door was closed, to leave something I forgot at his home and asked for back. He also left a handwritten note and wine…Since then, he has repeatedly asked to meet me one on one, whereas I have set boundaries not even contacting when I’m in town. He’s always first to view my story and I had to block him as I would get so aggravated. I even got a mutual friend to join the most recent event, but I feel like I just need to decline at this point. The only reason I would want to stay friends is due to mutual friends. He’s now asking again to meet a week before my birthday which of course he always remembers when I don’t even want him to wish me. Harsh but true. Should I meet or decline? Am I weird for feeling so annoyed, or did he cross a line? Do you think he hopes to be more than friends? Thank you.



Submitted March 12, 2023 at 12:15AM

I get so irritated when I think of this guy that I used to confide in until he suddenly blew up at me for kissing my friend who he “hates” for insulting his job. I was so mad when he overreacted to a decision I had full right to make that has nothing to do with him. I was like why the fuck is he yelling at me if he’s pissed at that guy. While I did stay at his place years ago when I visited town (he has roommates), I see him purely as a friend and just needed somewhere to stay. Then months later he asked to stay at my place for days when I wasn’t even home, even trespassing my bedroom where the door was closed, to leave something I forgot at his home and asked for back. He also left a handwritten note and wine…Since then, he has repeatedly asked to meet me one on one, whereas I have set boundaries not even contacting when I’m in town. He’s always first to view my story and I had to block him as I would get so aggravated. I even got a mutual friend to join the most recent event, but I feel like I just need to decline at this point. The only reason I would want to stay friends is due to mutual friends. He’s now asking again to meet a week before my birthday which of course he always remembers when I don’t even want him to wish me. Harsh but true. Should I meet or decline? Am I weird for feeling so annoyed, or did he cross a line? Do you think he hopes to be more than friends? Thank you.
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