(35m) was seeing someone for a month (35f) when they decide it's to much and we need to take a break. Reestablish contact only to find they ate dating someone else now.

I (35m) was seeing a woman (35f) for a month. We lived an hour away, but as I constantly traveled for work, the distance was no issue. We both had a fair share of past relationship issues, mine being a failed marriage where I was walked all over and her coming from abusive relationships. After a month of seeing each other I received a text asking if she could mail me my belongings (clothes, toiletries, some odds and ends) that she told me to keep at her place back to me. Confused, I called her and she said it was to much, and the feelings were to intense. We had a back and forth about her feelings and mine. After we decided to not talk for 3 weeks to a month and to come back and see if we both still had feelings for each other. I waited a month before I made contact. She informed me she was seeing someone else and could no longer talk to me and I needed to understand that. She still texts me every other day just random things and today she called and told me she wants me to be happy and to find someone who will treat me the way I deserve. I responded by saying I was not interested in getting into another relationship for awhile and that I still had feelings towards her and if things change to let me know. She said they won't change yet she still continues to message me and has not mailed me back or asked me to pick up my stuff after I have reminded her of it. It's like she brushes it off like I didn't say it. Is this a game being played to see if I will wait or see if I am committed? I even told her if there is no chance of us than please can we end it here and she leaves it open ended never giving me an answer. Any advice on how I should proceed? I do have feelings for her still. She is an amazing funny smart beautiful woman. All I want is for her to be happy and treated right. I'm just unsure as to why she continues with me if there is no chance of us as she puts it.

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Submitted March 12, 2023 at 01:11AM

I (35m) was seeing a woman (35f) for a month. We lived an hour away, but as I constantly traveled for work, the distance was no issue. We both had a fair share of past relationship issues, mine being a failed marriage where I was walked all over and her coming from abusive relationships. After a month of seeing each other I received a text asking if she could mail me my belongings (clothes, toiletries, some odds and ends) that she told me to keep at her place back to me. Confused, I called her and she said it was to much, and the feelings were to intense. We had a back and forth about her feelings and mine. After we decided to not talk for 3 weeks to a month and to come back and see if we both still had feelings for each other. I waited a month before I made contact. She informed me she was seeing someone else and could no longer talk to me and I needed to understand that. She still texts me every other day just random things and today she called and told me she wants me to be happy and to find someone who will treat me the way I deserve. I responded by saying I was not interested in getting into another relationship for awhile and that I still had feelings towards her and if things change to let me know. She said they won't change yet she still continues to message me and has not mailed me back or asked me to pick up my stuff after I have reminded her of it. It's like she brushes it off like I didn't say it. Is this a game being played to see if I will wait or see if I am committed? I even told her if there is no chance of us than please can we end it here and she leaves it open ended never giving me an answer. Any advice on how I should proceed? I do have feelings for her still. She is an amazing funny smart beautiful woman. All I want is for her to be happy and treated right. I'm just unsure as to why she continues with me if there is no chance of us as she puts it.Thanks
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