Am I getting ghosted or just being anxious

I (25f) have been talking to a man (33) since around Christmas. We don’t live in the same city, and we matched on an app while I was visiting his city (my hometown). I’m in an intense grad school program, and he works in finance. Right when we started talking, I had to have surgery and wasn’t able to travel for a while. We stayed in touch consistently, first via text and then by phone calls that would last hours. We ended up having a lot of chemistry and would talk about work, family, relationships, what we wanted in partners, etc. After about a month, he stopped texting as often/responding. He’s gone multiple days without responding to me, but always does and apologizes at his lack of response. Once on the phone, he’s mentioned that he hates to text and sometimes forgets to write back after days. I asked him if this was any indication of his interest in someone, and he said no — if he’s not interested he’ll say he’s not interested. We finally met this past weekend, and it was wonderful. He’s in the middle of a transition with work and has been slammed, but he moved some things around to see me. We slept together and the physical chemistry was as good as I could’ve hoped. Afterwards we cuddled for an hour talking and kissing. Since leaving, we’ve only texted a couple of times. We both told each other we had a great time with one another. We’ve also both shared that we like each other and have discussed being in a place for a long-term relationship. He’s also told me off-handedly he’s off dating apps. That being said we haven’t discussed exclusivity and I haven’t mentioned that the communication is an issue for me. I’m worried about the lack of communication since sleeping together and I don’t know what to think. It’s been since we last spoke, and I was the last to send a message on the way home from the weekend. I can’t tell if I’m being slow-ghosted or if he’s truly slammed at work and not worried about where we are with each other. He’s taken this long to respond before, but I feel things are different now we’ve been physical.

Submitted March 20, 2023 at 01:07AM

I (25f) have been talking to a man (33) since around Christmas. We don’t live in the same city, and we matched on an app while I was visiting his city (my hometown). I’m in an intense grad school program, and he works in finance. Right when we started talking, I had to have surgery and wasn’t able to travel for a while. We stayed in touch consistently, first via text and then by phone calls that would last hours. We ended up having a lot of chemistry and would talk about work, family, relationships, what we wanted in partners, etc. After about a month, he stopped texting as often/responding. He’s gone multiple days without responding to me, but always does and apologizes at his lack of response. Once on the phone, he’s mentioned that he hates to text and sometimes forgets to write back after days. I asked him if this was any indication of his interest in someone, and he said no — if he’s not interested he’ll say he’s not interested. We finally met this past weekend, and it was wonderful. He’s in the middle of a transition with work and has been slammed, but he moved some things around to see me. We slept together and the physical chemistry was as good as I could’ve hoped. Afterwards we cuddled for an hour talking and kissing. Since leaving, we’ve only texted a couple of times. We both told each other we had a great time with one another. We’ve also both shared that we like each other and have discussed being in a place for a long-term relationship. He’s also told me off-handedly he’s off dating apps. That being said we haven’t discussed exclusivity and I haven’t mentioned that the communication is an issue for me. I’m worried about the lack of communication since sleeping together and I don’t know what to think. It’s been since we last spoke, and I was the last to send a message on the way home from the weekend. I can’t tell if I’m being slow-ghosted or if he’s truly slammed at work and not worried about where we are with each other. He’s taken this long to respond before, but I feel things are different now we’ve been physical.