Dating Advice Needed

I 36[F] have been on several dates with a 39[M] and they have gone extremely well! We’ve had great chemistry, phenomenal conversation, and from my perspective, the connection was there. We have both been single for a while and have had our fair share of bad relationships in the past, so our meeting each other was really a breath of fresh air. I know he is physically attracted to me (he’s told me as much), and I’m also physically attracted to him. It feels so natural for us to be around each other and we are both looking forward to our next date (which hasn’t been planned just yet since our last date was a couple of days ago). We have been dating for a couple of months and when we first started dating, he would check in on me every day just to say good morning, ask how my day went, or even to say goodnight (and vice versa, I would take the initiative to do the same). However, now I’m noticing that communication from him is slowing down and it makes me sad because I can really see a future with him. I haven’t heard from him in a couple of days (since our last date) and I’m not sure why. It’s almost like he fell off the face of the earth or is no longer interested (which is fine, but why wouldn’t he just tell me if that’s the case?). I know a couple of days isn’t “that long” of a time, but it’s certainly been jarring since we used to communicate so often, and our last date went extremely well. One thing to mention is that I’m Black and he is Chinese, so I wonder if maybe he doesn’t see a future with me because it wouldn’t be accepted culturally, or maybe he’s flat-out not into me or just needs some space to figure out what he wants. I will say, I have NEVER had a man treat me as well as he does, it has been truly amazing. I am so tired of the never-ending cycle of dating someone new, forming a connection, and then having someone fall off the face of the earth. I really want things to work out between us, but I don't want to push too hard and push him away.

I’d love to hear everyone’s thoughts, especially from a male’s perspective. Also - any suggestions on what I should do? Thank you!

Submitted January 01, 2023 at 04:32PM

I 36[F] have been on several dates with a 39[M] and they have gone extremely well! We’ve had great chemistry, phenomenal conversation, and from my perspective, the connection was there. We have both been single for a while and have had our fair share of bad relationships in the past, so our meeting each other was really a breath of fresh air. I know he is physically attracted to me (he’s told me as much), and I’m also physically attracted to him. It feels so natural for us to be around each other and we are both looking forward to our next date (which hasn’t been planned just yet since our last date was a couple of days ago). We have been dating for a couple of months and when we first started dating, he would check in on me every day just to say good morning, ask how my day went, or even to say goodnight (and vice versa, I would take the initiative to do the same). However, now I’m noticing that communication from him is slowing down and it makes me sad because I can really see a future with him. I haven’t heard from him in a couple of days (since our last date) and I’m not sure why. It’s almost like he fell off the face of the earth or is no longer interested (which is fine, but why wouldn’t he just tell me if that’s the case?). I know a couple of days isn’t “that long” of a time, but it’s certainly been jarring since we used to communicate so often, and our last date went extremely well. One thing to mention is that I’m Black and he is Chinese, so I wonder if maybe he doesn’t see a future with me because it wouldn’t be accepted culturally, or maybe he’s flat-out not into me or just needs some space to figure out what he wants. I will say, I have NEVER had a man treat me as well as he does, it has been truly amazing. I am so tired of the never-ending cycle of dating someone new, forming a connection, and then having someone fall off the face of the earth. I really want things to work out between us, but I don't want to push too hard and push him away.I’d love to hear everyone’s thoughts, especially from a male’s perspective. Also - any suggestions on what I should do? Thank you!