I regularly get a lot of "stares/looks/smiles" from women wherever I go. Should I do something about it?

Horrible title but I'm not good at titles so...

I've always been on the quiet introverted side though, I've worked hard to "come out of my shell" and gain a ton more confidence and self-esteem in myself the last few years but, it's still a work in progress... I bring that up because throughout my 20s I always noticed, and was very aware of women flirting with me, giving me seductive glances, etc... but was always to shy and had like zero confidence to do anything.

Now being 34 I'm wiser, have more confdience and self esteem and have learned how to pick up/read women and their silly signs and signals that are obvious to them but not men haha but am still unsure on how to act on them.. I've also realized I'm actually a fairly attractive man which in my 20s, I never thoguth I was.

Anyways... Despite all of that, I'm still unsure of the whole eye stares from women because I do get it often enough and I know it's not because they think I'm weird looking or have chips and queso in my beard or something. I notice these stares/glances and more often than not it's multiple glances which I catch them in. I guess I can't ever tell if it's just like an, "oh hes cute" and thats it or if its more of a "hes cute, i wish hed talk to me" kind of thing, if that makes sense. We all look at things/people we are attracted to but that doesn't necessarily mean we want to talk to them.

Just as an example... a bar/resturaunt I go to a lot there is a cute bartender that I'd love to ask out (which I won't because she's a bartender) and I catch her looking at me all the damn time. It almost seems like she wants me to catch her looking at me bc we make eye contact and then she smiles. She has a boyfriend so I have no idea what to make of that. Sure you could say she's looking for tips and being flirty but, she doesn't really flirt with me outside of the eye contact. I just catch her looking at me A LOT and every single time, we make eye contact which to me, seems on purpose.

So question is, what are your little eye stares/looks/glances mean lol, and are you wanting the guy to come talk to you or are you just looking

Submitted December 03, 2022 at 12:35AM

Horrible title but I'm not good at titles so...I've always been on the quiet introverted side though, I've worked hard to "come out of my shell" and gain a ton more confidence and self-esteem in myself the last few years but, it's still a work in progress... I bring that up because throughout my 20s I always noticed, and was very aware of women flirting with me, giving me seductive glances, etc... but was always to shy and had like zero confidence to do anything.Now being 34 I'm wiser, have more confdience and self esteem and have learned how to pick up/read women and their silly signs and signals that are obvious to them but not men haha but am still unsure on how to act on them.. I've also realized I'm actually a fairly attractive man which in my 20s, I never thoguth I was.Anyways... Despite all of that, I'm still unsure of the whole eye stares from women because I do get it often enough and I know it's not because they think I'm weird looking or have chips and queso in my beard or something. I notice these stares/glances and more often than not it's multiple glances which I catch them in. I guess I can't ever tell if it's just like an, "oh hes cute" and thats it or if its more of a "hes cute, i wish hed talk to me" kind of thing, if that makes sense. We all look at things/people we are attracted to but that doesn't necessarily mean we want to talk to them.Just as an example... a bar/resturaunt I go to a lot there is a cute bartender that I'd love to ask out (which I won't because she's a bartender) and I catch her looking at me all the damn time. It almost seems like she wants me to catch her looking at me bc we make eye contact and then she smiles. She has a boyfriend so I have no idea what to make of that. Sure you could say she's looking for tips and being flirty but, she doesn't really flirt with me outside of the eye contact. I just catch her looking at me A LOT and every single time, we make eye contact which to me, seems on purpose.So question is, what are your little eye stares/looks/glances mean lol, and are you wanting the guy to come talk to you or are you just looking