Should I have texted her?

I met this girl a couple of days ago for the first time at another friend's birthday party.

We both knew that we existed since I actually hit her up through messenger AGES ago (we have mutuals, used to be in the same student association and study the same thing in uni) but we had never seen each other or met in person, or at least I had never seen her but kept seeing her profile. The initial chat over messenger was okay but just led her kind of ghosting me (typical) and it was just really simple, frank conversation about uni, the association and what we did.

We met at the party and also talked there but nothing really special materialised; basic convos, played a bit of that table soccer/football game and did grow to be fond of each other but she was relatively shy, she only knew one other person really closely there and stuck with her but I had been hanging with her for a while that she felt comfortable around me, started following me around when I went somewhere etc.

We said our goodbyes when she decided to leave early, hugged and gone. Nothing about contacts or socials traded at all since I'm guessing we already kind of had them.

I'm wondering if I should have texted her after. It's been days since then and I feel a bit bad but should I have? I really like this girl, despite having barely talked. The fact is that I very rarely ever find a girl I feel like I want to dedicate to, chase, show interest to or at least put some effort in at all romantically. 90 - 95% of girls I meet I just write off, simply because they're not my type or something is wrong there so I'm usually never chasing after anybody, but when I had seen her profile pic for the first time she absolutely stunned me, and again I'm usually never captivated this easily. When I had met her it was confirmed that she was just as gorgeous in person. I had some suspicions or ideas of what kind of person she was in person and I was also right, she's shy but committed, smart, strong, independent and ambitious (she's vice president of the student association she's a part of). That's exactly my type and right up my alley which made me interested.

Should I have texted her? And what should I text?? Should I try to ask her out or was there not enough there for me to judge or determine that? I felt like there wasn't enough for me to figure that I'd do that, nothing really went into that territory and there wasn't anything from her that implied anything.

Thanks!

Submitted November 23, 2022 at 01:11AM

I met this girl a couple of days ago for the first time at another friend's birthday party.We both knew that we existed since I actually hit her up through messenger AGES ago (we have mutuals, used to be in the same student association and study the same thing in uni) but we had never seen each other or met in person, or at least I had never seen her but kept seeing her profile. The initial chat over messenger was okay but just led her kind of ghosting me (typical) and it was just really simple, frank conversation about uni, the association and what we did.We met at the party and also talked there but nothing really special materialised; basic convos, played a bit of that table soccer/football game and did grow to be fond of each other but she was relatively shy, she only knew one other person really closely there and stuck with her but I had been hanging with her for a while that she felt comfortable around me, started following me around when I went somewhere etc.We said our goodbyes when she decided to leave early, hugged and gone. Nothing about contacts or socials traded at all since I'm guessing we already kind of had them.I'm wondering if I should have texted her after. It's been days since then and I feel a bit bad but should I have? I really like this girl, despite having barely talked. The fact is that I very rarely ever find a girl I feel like I want to dedicate to, chase, show interest to or at least put some effort in at all romantically. 90 - 95% of girls I meet I just write off, simply because they're not my type or something is wrong there so I'm usually never chasing after anybody, but when I had seen her profile pic for the first time she absolutely stunned me, and again I'm usually never captivated this easily. When I had met her it was confirmed that she was just as gorgeous in person. I had some suspicions or ideas of what kind of person she was in person and I was also right, she's shy but committed, smart, strong, independent and ambitious (she's vice president of the student association she's a part of). That's exactly my type and right up my alley which made me interested.Should I have texted her? And what should I text?? Should I try to ask her out or was there not enough there for me to judge or determine that? I felt like there wasn't enough for me to figure that I'd do that, nothing really went into that territory and there wasn't anything from her that implied anything.Thanks!