My very first post here but was I wrong...

This is my first time ever posting but i guess some part of me wanted to vent while a majority part of me wanted to know But ive been with this girl for some time now. Everything i could do for her i have tried and I ain't perfect( far from it since ive had my fair share of deviating) I think of myself asan patient person and I am someone who basically goes with the energy of the room, but i can be pretty quiet about my feelings since I was born and raised by old school. First 2 years of the relationship was pretty good to the point it was even great id say. The love and affection was all there. Mind the fact that that our love language is similar but hers is that of word of affirmation on top of our similarity when it comes to physical touch. Fast forward 2 years into relationships these things become less and less. Which at first I didn't mind because she gets bad panic attacks and I try to be as supportive possible even tho my knowledge on it is very little, I tried to do research and try basically. I wasn't perfect but I still did everything I could not to diminish that love I saw in her eyes. So basically the love the intimacy and the sex and all was there, not like before but it was there. Fast forward another a years basically, most of these things have stopped, I could still look at her like I did the first few years we where together and all. Mind the fact that covid played a big role in her panic attacks and anxiety attacks since she did gain a few which makes her feel disgusting about herself, but I keep trying to reassure her that she is still the beautiful girl I know and love and that if all this is getting to her I am willing to go to the gym with her and help in anyway I can. She find the motivation here and there to go and do her stuff. Which I could see helped her to some degree and I couldn't be happier for her. Things that use to be in the relationship where missing but she was working on herself so I put my needs and feelings to the side and see to helping her with her hurdles. Another year passed. She become stagnant with all the progress she started working on.. anxiety started kicking more often, panic attacks occurring more often, all and all It felt like I was running out things to do to help her in any ways or forms, I started having bad energy all around basically, with my friends and family, I felt physically and mentally drained but I loved her and wanted to try to help her heal. My needs where basically no longer meet, we went from intimacy and sex from ones a day basically to once every 2months or more. My patient didn't run out until I decided to talked with some friends and get a bit of there point of view before I decided to cut it off and be friend with her. I was always told its not always good to have your best friends point of view because no matter what they will side with you and all. But what do you guys thinks, was I an asshole for wanted to cut it off because after years of trying I decided that I am no longer happy and that we need to go our separate ways and try to find ourself.

Submitted November 05, 2022 at 12:15AM

This is my first time ever posting but i guess some part of me wanted to vent while a majority part of me wanted to know But ive been with this girl for some time now. Everything i could do for her i have tried and I ain't perfect( far from it since ive had my fair share of deviating) I think of myself asan patient person and I am someone who basically goes with the energy of the room, but i can be pretty quiet about my feelings since I was born and raised by old school. First 2 years of the relationship was pretty good to the point it was even great id say. The love and affection was all there. Mind the fact that that our love language is similar but hers is that of word of affirmation on top of our similarity when it comes to physical touch. Fast forward 2 years into relationships these things become less and less. Which at first I didn't mind because she gets bad panic attacks and I try to be as supportive possible even tho my knowledge on it is very little, I tried to do research and try basically. I wasn't perfect but I still did everything I could not to diminish that love I saw in her eyes. So basically the love the intimacy and the sex and all was there, not like before but it was there. Fast forward another a years basically, most of these things have stopped, I could still look at her like I did the first few years we where together and all. Mind the fact that covid played a big role in her panic attacks and anxiety attacks since she did gain a few which makes her feel disgusting about herself, but I keep trying to reassure her that she is still the beautiful girl I know and love and that if all this is getting to her I am willing to go to the gym with her and help in anyway I can. She find the motivation here and there to go and do her stuff. Which I could see helped her to some degree and I couldn't be happier for her. Things that use to be in the relationship where missing but she was working on herself so I put my needs and feelings to the side and see to helping her with her hurdles. Another year passed. She become stagnant with all the progress she started working on.. anxiety started kicking more often, panic attacks occurring more often, all and all It felt like I was running out things to do to help her in any ways or forms, I started having bad energy all around basically, with my friends and family, I felt physically and mentally drained but I loved her and wanted to try to help her heal. My needs where basically no longer meet, we went from intimacy and sex from ones a day basically to once every 2months or more. My patient didn't run out until I decided to talked with some friends and get a bit of there point of view before I decided to cut it off and be friend with her. I was always told its not always good to have your best friends point of view because no matter what they will side with you and all. But what do you guys thinks, was I an asshole for wanted to cut it off because after years of trying I decided that I am no longer happy and that we need to go our separate ways and try to find ourself.