Dating as an anxious introverted teen..

(M15) First off let me start by saying that this is the first time I decided to man up. I have very bad social anxiety and im very introverted and trapped in my own bubble at home and I have some attachment issues, possible agarophobia too but im not diagnosed with that yet. I am a pretty average looking dude, not ugly, I've had the privilege to be asked out by 2 girls. One from my class and one that I met in a shopping mall. And guess what, even tho they were pretty as hell, not only did I reject them, but ghosted them too.

Now, I started High School. On the second day a pretty girl told me she liked my shirt. I thought to myself that it was just her being nice since it was a band tee and she might've liked it. Next day I get a letter (a little old fashioned but it was very cute to me), she wrote that I seemed nice and that she liked my style etc. She wrote her snap and number too. (SHE DID ASK ME IF I WANTED TO BE HER FRIEND) But what seems suspicious to me is that ever since then she keeps going to the bathroom at the same exact time everyday and on the way, takes her chance to look at me, of course I act like I don't see it but I do. She messages me often and talks to me irl. She seems very enthusiastic while my stupid anxious ass is dry asf.

Any tips on how to not fuck this up? One more problem I have is that I am very ashamed to start dating because of how awkward it would be with my parents. Needless to say they are not used to me being outside very often lol..



Submitted November 19, 2022 at 01:14AM

(M15) First off let me start by saying that this is the first time I decided to man up. I have very bad social anxiety and im very introverted and trapped in my own bubble at home and I have some attachment issues, possible agarophobia too but im not diagnosed with that yet. I am a pretty average looking dude, not ugly, I've had the privilege to be asked out by 2 girls. One from my class and one that I met in a shopping mall. And guess what, even tho they were pretty as hell, not only did I reject them, but ghosted them too.Now, I started High School. On the second day a pretty girl told me she liked my shirt. I thought to myself that it was just her being nice since it was a band tee and she might've liked it. Next day I get a letter (a little old fashioned but it was very cute to me), she wrote that I seemed nice and that she liked my style etc. She wrote her snap and number too. (SHE DID ASK ME IF I WANTED TO BE HER FRIEND) But what seems suspicious to me is that ever since then she keeps going to the bathroom at the same exact time everyday and on the way, takes her chance to look at me, of course I act like I don't see it but I do. She messages me often and talks to me irl. She seems very enthusiastic while my stupid anxious ass is dry asf.Any tips on how to not fuck this up? One more problem I have is that I am very ashamed to start dating because of how awkward it would be with my parents. Needless to say they are not used to me being outside very often lol..
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