Went on a date in another country. Went well but should I do something or wait until I move there?

I 24M was in Europe for a work trip a few weeks ago and also to see if i wanna move there. I decided I would do so within the next year. While there I matched with a girl. I used my nickname instead of my real name (I never intended on hooking up, just wanted to chat to people). Anyway vibes were good so we decided to meet up just for fun before I leave.

It started really late at night because I had work during the day but i think the date went well. We talked until the bar closed well past midnight (which I appreciate as she works long hours and had work the next day) and neither of us looked at our phone at all.

Anyway I walk her back, I had a call with a different timezone so had to call it a night anyway. We hugged and she said hope you come back soon for another trip. I texted her after saying i had a great time and she agreed and said i should let her know when i'm back. We then flirted for a couple days about going on a second date if we had the time. It died down eventually the night before i left as she said she was getting tired and needed to sleep so the convo ended there, but not before I told her about me using a nickname, my actual name, and before she shared her phone details/TikTok/IG etc. We haven't talked since. I was the last to write a message saying goodnight.

So I guess my question is... 1) was there anything? / am I imagining it? 2) should I restart the convo? Or should I just leave it? Independently of her I had already decided before meeting her that I wanted to move there but it's only been 1 date and it will take almost a year. I'm really bad at interpreting signals so I'm just relaying objectively what happened and hopefully someone can share an opinion on how they would see it and what they would do



Submitted October 23, 2022 at 01:01AM

I 24M was in Europe for a work trip a few weeks ago and also to see if i wanna move there. I decided I would do so within the next year. While there I matched with a girl. I used my nickname instead of my real name (I never intended on hooking up, just wanted to chat to people). Anyway vibes were good so we decided to meet up just for fun before I leave.It started really late at night because I had work during the day but i think the date went well. We talked until the bar closed well past midnight (which I appreciate as she works long hours and had work the next day) and neither of us looked at our phone at all.Anyway I walk her back, I had a call with a different timezone so had to call it a night anyway. We hugged and she said hope you come back soon for another trip. I texted her after saying i had a great time and she agreed and said i should let her know when i'm back. We then flirted for a couple days about going on a second date if we had the time. It died down eventually the night before i left as she said she was getting tired and needed to sleep so the convo ended there, but not before I told her about me using a nickname, my actual name, and before she shared her phone details/TikTok/IG etc. We haven't talked since. I was the last to write a message saying goodnight.So I guess my question is... 1) was there anything? / am I imagining it? 2) should I restart the convo? Or should I just leave it? Independently of her I had already decided before meeting her that I wanted to move there but it's only been 1 date and it will take almost a year. I'm really bad at interpreting signals so I'm just relaying objectively what happened and hopefully someone can share an opinion on how they would see it and what they would do
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