Keep ending up in short term relationships (24) F

So, I’ve recently just broke up with my bf and we were together for about 6 months. But, previously I have dated other guys and it’s always the same where we end up starting out and hitting it off but then break things off 3-6 months in. This has been happening for the last four years ever since I started dating. I’ve taken breaks in between from 3-9 months to reconstruct myself. But each time the guy just either always says they don’t have the same feelings anymore or that they are struggling with something and need to get in a better headspace. I’ve asked friends for advice but I always either get “he was playing games from the start” or “ don’t think about it too much”.

But, I’m really just feeling like I’m lacking something that allows or makes it so easy for other girls to keep guys interested in them. I’m not very clingy at all I tend to like my space and see my SO when we both can and I understand that work and life happens so I don’t get upset when things come up or we have to push back seeing each other. I always make sure to compliment them and send voice notes because I feel like guys like compliments just as much as girls do and I truly believe if I feel it I should say it. I always try to be supportive and understanding and think of them when I go out of town to get them something or whatever the case. Also, with mostly all the guys I’ve never had an argument or anything because I was raised in a house where everything was an argument and I hated that. Which is why I prefer to speak and talk things out. And when I ask these guys are they being truthful or if I did in fact do something. They say no and that they simply just aren’t feeling the relationship.

I’ve tried to switch it up each time like go with someone that’s not just gotten out of long term or find someone that has and I even stopped sticking to a type like my last ex was nothing like what I would have imagined I would date, but I really enjoyed his personality and how smart and caring he was but each time it ends the same. At my age now it’s kind of hard to find someone who hasn’t at least been in one long term relationship.

I really want to be in a long term relationship and for once know what it feels like to fall in love and it sucks when I see friends/others get into one constantly and every time I always have to be the one who is like it didn’t work out again and so then to make me not feel bad they are like “we won’t invite our SO” or “I’m sorry the next one will be better”. It’s like I’m the broken wheel on the wagon, every time I get fixed up I break down again dragging everyone down. I’ve always tried telling myself it’s the guys I choose but I’m really starting to feel like there’s something I’m lacking and can’t see.

Submitted October 26, 2022 at 12:18AM

So, I’ve recently just broke up with my bf and we were together for about 6 months. But, previously I have dated other guys and it’s always the same where we end up starting out and hitting it off but then break things off 3-6 months in. This has been happening for the last four years ever since I started dating. I’ve taken breaks in between from 3-9 months to reconstruct myself. But each time the guy just either always says they don’t have the same feelings anymore or that they are struggling with something and need to get in a better headspace. I’ve asked friends for advice but I always either get “he was playing games from the start” or “ don’t think about it too much”.But, I’m really just feeling like I’m lacking something that allows or makes it so easy for other girls to keep guys interested in them. I’m not very clingy at all I tend to like my space and see my SO when we both can and I understand that work and life happens so I don’t get upset when things come up or we have to push back seeing each other. I always make sure to compliment them and send voice notes because I feel like guys like compliments just as much as girls do and I truly believe if I feel it I should say it. I always try to be supportive and understanding and think of them when I go out of town to get them something or whatever the case. Also, with mostly all the guys I’ve never had an argument or anything because I was raised in a house where everything was an argument and I hated that. Which is why I prefer to speak and talk things out. And when I ask these guys are they being truthful or if I did in fact do something. They say no and that they simply just aren’t feeling the relationship.I’ve tried to switch it up each time like go with someone that’s not just gotten out of long term or find someone that has and I even stopped sticking to a type like my last ex was nothing like what I would have imagined I would date, but I really enjoyed his personality and how smart and caring he was but each time it ends the same. At my age now it’s kind of hard to find someone who hasn’t at least been in one long term relationship.I really want to be in a long term relationship and for once know what it feels like to fall in love and it sucks when I see friends/others get into one constantly and every time I always have to be the one who is like it didn’t work out again and so then to make me not feel bad they are like “we won’t invite our SO” or “I’m sorry the next one will be better”. It’s like I’m the broken wheel on the wagon, every time I get fixed up I break down again dragging everyone down. I’ve always tried telling myself it’s the guys I choose but I’m really starting to feel like there’s something I’m lacking and can’t see.