Need help. Should I tell her how I feel?

Ok, so I’ve posted in here recently, and hopefully this is my last post (you can check out my other posts too… in those, people said I’m moving to fast and will drive her away, but I don’t think I made it clear that we had talked for close to 9 months. If you still think I’m moving too fast, that’s fair, and please let me know). I’ve been talking to this girl (I’m 22, she’s 21) since December over dm almost every day, and have met a handful of time (because we live in different states, so I can only see her when I’m back home for break). We have a lot in common, and we are essentially the same person. She’s a beautiful looking girl (that’s quite popular), and I’m an average looking guy (and am not the greatest with girls), so I’m obviously unsure about how she feels about me. Nothing physical has really happened between us, but we have plans of her visiting and spending the weekend with me in a few weeks. I want to tell her how I feel about her before that actually happens, but an unsure of if that’s a good idea, as we haven’t made out or had sex. If you think it is a good idea (if it’s not, please let me know), how should I go about wording that text, as I’ve never sent something like that

Signs she likes me (but maybe I’m thinking too much into it, and none of this means anything and she’s just trying to be nice) - we hung out a lot when I was home during break (saw each other 6 times in a 9 day period… 3/6 days we were together for atleast 8 hours) - Some of the days we hung out were initiated by her (ex: she knew I would be in the city one of the days, and texted me she would be free to hangout after classes… this was the same night I texted her “I love you”. Another time, she was extremely tired but still decided to go to a museum with me) - Her response to the “I love you” text was 🥰 - She asked me if my family knows about her (at the time they didn’t, so I said no)… A few days later I introduced her to my youngest sister, and the following day she introduced me to her younger brother (who she said she introduces to a lot of her friends) - We met again the day after she met my sister, and she said “tell your sister I said hi. Actually, tell the family I said hi” - She introduced me to a friend she thought I would get along with really well - She’s invited me out to different parties while I was home, but I couldn’t make it (this was before the text) - She once asked if I ever had the house to myself (we were talking about her helping me with something), to which I said no, and her response was “oh ok, it’s too early to meet the family) - The day I left back for college, she texted me first (I made sure to not text her first that day) and she was the first to say I miss you (“imy already 😩”… this was less than 24 hours since we were last together) - Fast replies to texts, and she’s initiated the last few days - She was receptive to the idea of coming to visit me at school and spending the weekend with me - When I was telling her about how I went on a long walk yesterday (she’s really into nature and exploring), her response was “I wish I was there”. I told her we can go there when she come to visit me, and she said “yess i would absolutely love tht” - We were texting today, and I referenced something small she said the last time we met, and her response was “ily for saying that” - She always tells me I’m very sweet and nice

Signs she doesn’t like me - I sent of something sexually suggestive on Ig today (this isn’t the first time), and her response was “CHILL W THIS” and “you are too comfortable with me” - We met some new people while out one day (we we’re alone and it was late, so the people assumed we were a couple), and she began speaking in Spanish to them (bc she had mentioned she was learning Spanish) and it was clear it was about us, but I’m not sure exactly what they were saying (this is hours before I texted her “I love you” and it could’ve be anything from “we’re not in a relationship” to “I don’t like him”… not exactly sure what it was, but I’m 99% sure it wasn’t anything great, and the girl responded in English along the lines of “oh, you got guys lined up for you”… this is the main reason why I don’t think she likes me) - This same night, we were in an Uber, and she was tired, so I told her she could rest her head on my shoulder, but she said she was good (however, later in the ride, she fell asleep on me and was essentially wrapped around me as she slept) - Nothing physical or sexual has happened - When the convo came up of her coming to visit me, she asked where she would stay (I put this here, bc I feel like if she liked me, it would be assumed it would be with me) - she’s a good looking girl and can probably get most guys, and all I really offer is being a good person (but I also know that this is just my insecurities talking… just felt like I needed to put is here)

TL;DR: I’m not too experienced and need some help. I’m all over the place 😂

Submitted September 22, 2022 at 12:02AM

Ok, so I’ve posted in here recently, and hopefully this is my last post (you can check out my other posts too… in those, people said I’m moving to fast and will drive her away, but I don’t think I made it clear that we had talked for close to 9 months. If you still think I’m moving too fast, that’s fair, and please let me know). I’ve been talking to this girl (I’m 22, she’s 21) since December over dm almost every day, and have met a handful of time (because we live in different states, so I can only see her when I’m back home for break). We have a lot in common, and we are essentially the same person. She’s a beautiful looking girl (that’s quite popular), and I’m an average looking guy (and am not the greatest with girls), so I’m obviously unsure about how she feels about me. Nothing physical has really happened between us, but we have plans of her visiting and spending the weekend with me in a few weeks. I want to tell her how I feel about her before that actually happens, but an unsure of if that’s a good idea, as we haven’t made out or had sex. If you think it is a good idea (if it’s not, please let me know), how should I go about wording that text, as I’ve never sent something like thatSigns she likes me (but maybe I’m thinking too much into it, and none of this means anything and she’s just trying to be nice) - we hung out a lot when I was home during break (saw each other 6 times in a 9 day period… 3/6 days we were together for atleast 8 hours) - Some of the days we hung out were initiated by her (ex: she knew I would be in the city one of the days, and texted me she would be free to hangout after classes… this was the same night I texted her “I love you”. Another time, she was extremely tired but still decided to go to a museum with me) - Her response to the “I love you” text was 🥰 - She asked me if my family knows about her (at the time they didn’t, so I said no)… A few days later I introduced her to my youngest sister, and the following day she introduced me to her younger brother (who she said she introduces to a lot of her friends) - We met again the day after she met my sister, and she said “tell your sister I said hi. Actually, tell the family I said hi” - She introduced me to a friend she thought I would get along with really well - She’s invited me out to different parties while I was home, but I couldn’t make it (this was before the text) - She once asked if I ever had the house to myself (we were talking about her helping me with something), to which I said no, and her response was “oh ok, it’s too early to meet the family) - The day I left back for college, she texted me first (I made sure to not text her first that day) and she was the first to say I miss you (“imy already 😩”… this was less than 24 hours since we were last together) - Fast replies to texts, and she’s initiated the last few days - She was receptive to the idea of coming to visit me at school and spending the weekend with me - When I was telling her about how I went on a long walk yesterday (she’s really into nature and exploring), her response was “I wish I was there”. I told her we can go there when she come to visit me, and she said “yess i would absolutely love tht” - We were texting today, and I referenced something small she said the last time we met, and her response was “ily for saying that” - She always tells me I’m very sweet and niceSigns she doesn’t like me - I sent of something sexually suggestive on Ig today (this isn’t the first time), and her response was “CHILL W THIS” and “you are too comfortable with me” - We met some new people while out one day (we we’re alone and it was late, so the people assumed we were a couple), and she began speaking in Spanish to them (bc she had mentioned she was learning Spanish) and it was clear it was about us, but I’m not sure exactly what they were saying (this is hours before I texted her “I love you” and it could’ve be anything from “we’re not in a relationship” to “I don’t like him”… not exactly sure what it was, but I’m 99% sure it wasn’t anything great, and the girl responded in English along the lines of “oh, you got guys lined up for you”… this is the main reason why I don’t think she likes me) - This same night, we were in an Uber, and she was tired, so I told her she could rest her head on my shoulder, but she said she was good (however, later in the ride, she fell asleep on me and was essentially wrapped around me as she slept) - Nothing physical or sexual has happened - When the convo came up of her coming to visit me, she asked where she would stay (I put this here, bc I feel like if she liked me, it would be assumed it would be with me) - she’s a good looking girl and can probably get most guys, and all I really offer is being a good person (but I also know that this is just my insecurities talking… just felt like I needed to put is here)TL;DR: I’m not too experienced and need some help. I’m all over the place 😂