When did you realize that you've fallen in love?

Hi all,

I'm F/20 and I was wondering how y'all knew you actually have fallen in love with your partner. I'm currently dealing with lots of mixed feelings for a guy (M/20) and he is AMAZING. He makes me feel loved, we communicate and connect very well, he respects my family/friends and I. My family absolutely adores him (especially my dad, which is surprising since he's so strict) and he's respectful and nice towards my friends. I think I am falling for him but there are SO many uncertainties that I feel like are blocking me from making a final decision.

Uncertainties: (all of these situations have happened before which is why I'm scared)

  • I've been in traumatic situations before and because of that, I'm afraid that this is just a lie and everything will go away
  • I don't want to be in the relationship and then realize that I've mistaken my feelings for him and that I just want to be friends
  • I don't want to lose him at all, he's a part of my life and he has a special place in my heart... so I'm scared that if he does get together with someone else, I'll probably end up realizing that I have feelings for him

We do talk about EVERYTHING together so I have been very clear and honest with him & he completely understands and does not mind waiting for me. He understands everything that I've been through and completely respects my boundaries. But I don't ever want to hurt him and we have been taking it slow... I'm scared that I just won't ever have a clear answer for him... but at the same time, it hurts me when I imagine him with someone else or just as friends. I'm very confused.

So, people of Reddit, how did you end up realizing that you've fallen in love? And how did you confess?

~ also posted on r/relationship_advice



Submitted July 17, 2022 at 12:02AM

Hi all,I'm F/20 and I was wondering how y'all knew you actually have fallen in love with your partner. I'm currently dealing with lots of mixed feelings for a guy (M/20) and he is AMAZING. He makes me feel loved, we communicate and connect very well, he respects my family/friends and I. My family absolutely adores him (especially my dad, which is surprising since he's so strict) and he's respectful and nice towards my friends. I think I am falling for him but there are SO many uncertainties that I feel like are blocking me from making a final decision.Uncertainties: (all of these situations have happened before which is why I'm scared)I've been in traumatic situations before and because of that, I'm afraid that this is just a lie and everything will go awayI don't want to be in the relationship and then realize that I've mistaken my feelings for him and that I just want to be friendsI don't want to lose him at all, he's a part of my life and he has a special place in my heart... so I'm scared that if he does get together with someone else, I'll probably end up realizing that I have feelings for himWe do talk about EVERYTHING together so I have been very clear and honest with him & he completely understands and does not mind waiting for me. He understands everything that I've been through and completely respects my boundaries. But I don't ever want to hurt him and we have been taking it slow... I'm scared that I just won't ever have a clear answer for him... but at the same time, it hurts me when I imagine him with someone else or just as friends. I'm very confused.So, people of Reddit, how did you end up realizing that you've fallen in love? And how did you confess?~ also posted on r/relationship_advice
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