Girl asked me out, thought we had a great time, then she ghosted when I asked to see her again

So this I (19M) met this girl at my gym and spoke to her a few times. I never thought she was interested and I wasn’t particularly interested in her either so I never went for it. Well, after seeing her and making small talk like 4-5 times she asked me for my number and pretty much immediately after i gave it to her asked me out. We went on a date, and I thought it went amazingly. She seemed to have a great time, we got along really well, and I thought the hook up after went almost as well as it could’ve. She wanted to have sex, but I wasn’t able to get hard. I really wasn’t embarrassed and just told her I wasn’t feeling it. Anyway, i fingered her and presumably made her finish a few times. After getting ghosted, my first instinct was to assume she faked it, but I have no other reason to believe she did. She seemed really into it without being suspiciously/theatrically loud. she was gripping me very hard when she finished and shaking and stuff, plus she seemed eager for me to do it again, which I wouldn’t think she’d want if it was fake. She also tried to give me head but I didn’t finish and didn’t enjoy it very much. She apologized for not making me cum but I really didn’t mind and let her know. Anyway, when I dropped her off she said she’d text me to see me again. I sent her a message and said thanks for coming out, had a great time, and she said the same back. So fast forward to a week after that and I asked her to come over for a movie date and she told me she had some plans that would probably fall through that day so she’d get back to me in the next couple days. Come the day i asked her to come over, she never messaged me, and then I saw her at the gym and she clearly avoided me. I will say I blocked her after the gym cause I was hurt lol, so if she did have a valid reason and texted I wouldn’t have seen it, but after she dodged me at the gym I figure she was never gonna reach out. So did she fake all of it? I’m feeling really insecure cause I thought we had a great time but now I feel like I made a fool out of myself. I assumed that if you made someone finish a few times and they enjoyed it they were a lot less likely to ghost, especially if they initiated it, so I’m really confused.

Submitted April 17, 2022 at 01:10AM

So this I (19M) met this girl at my gym and spoke to her a few times. I never thought she was interested and I wasn’t particularly interested in her either so I never went for it. Well, after seeing her and making small talk like 4-5 times she asked me for my number and pretty much immediately after i gave it to her asked me out. We went on a date, and I thought it went amazingly. She seemed to have a great time, we got along really well, and I thought the hook up after went almost as well as it could’ve. She wanted to have sex, but I wasn’t able to get hard. I really wasn’t embarrassed and just told her I wasn’t feeling it. Anyway, i fingered her and presumably made her finish a few times. After getting ghosted, my first instinct was to assume she faked it, but I have no other reason to believe she did. She seemed really into it without being suspiciously/theatrically loud. she was gripping me very hard when she finished and shaking and stuff, plus she seemed eager for me to do it again, which I wouldn’t think she’d want if it was fake. She also tried to give me head but I didn’t finish and didn’t enjoy it very much. She apologized for not making me cum but I really didn’t mind and let her know. Anyway, when I dropped her off she said she’d text me to see me again. I sent her a message and said thanks for coming out, had a great time, and she said the same back. So fast forward to a week after that and I asked her to come over for a movie date and she told me she had some plans that would probably fall through that day so she’d get back to me in the next couple days. Come the day i asked her to come over, she never messaged me, and then I saw her at the gym and she clearly avoided me. I will say I blocked her after the gym cause I was hurt lol, so if she did have a valid reason and texted I wouldn’t have seen it, but after she dodged me at the gym I figure she was never gonna reach out. So did she fake all of it? I’m feeling really insecure cause I thought we had a great time but now I feel like I made a fool out of myself. I assumed that if you made someone finish a few times and they enjoyed it they were a lot less likely to ghost, especially if they initiated it, so I’m really confused.