My boyfriend just stopped wanting to have sex. Help.

My boyfriend (23m) and I (20f) have known each other for 3 years and have been dating for 1 year. During the first two years that we knew each other. We dated on and off. And we fucked a lot. It was crazy and fun. Super passionate and sometimes a little weird. We had a good time with each other. He’d always get hard ons for me. He’d wake me up in the mornings for sex. I loved sucking his dick and trying my best to make sure he felt good too.. Sometimes it was very loving and sometimes it was very rough (which we both like) But come last year, I found out I was pregnant with our son. When we got back together last December, I noticed how he barely touched me. Or wanted to have sex. It’s been a year now and we maybe only have sex 4-5 times a month. We used to do it all the time. Yes my body changed, but I didn’t get fat. I was really skinny when I got pregnant. I was barely eating due to anxiety and depression. (It wasn’t diagnosed but I definitely also had an eating disorder) But after having my son, I looked exactly the same as I did when we first met. My boobs have changed obviously but it never bothered him. He still loves them. He tells me that it has nothing to do with me. He’s still attracted to me and still loves me. He just doesn’t want sex anymore. My love language is physical touch. Sex is important to me. And once upon a time he could barely keep his hands of off me. Now he never initiates sex and just isn’t interested in it. It’s taken a huge toll on me. I’ve lost my confidence and don’t know how to initiate anything. I don’t even like sucking him off anymore (and it used to be my FAVOURITE thing) I feel like a virgin. Scared and unsure of what to do. He said I need to try harder. He said I need to chase it because he doesn’t know how to chase sometime he doesn’t desire.

He used to say that I was an amazing lay. And we used to have the BEST sex. I don’t know what to do. I love him like crazy. I’ve wanted to marry this man since day one. But my heart is breaking. It’s been a year of this, and I feel neglected. Should we try couples counselling? Please someone give me some advice. Even if it’s how to initiate sex because I have no clue anymore. I’ve been trying so hard not to give up on us.

Submitted December 20, 2021 at 01:51AM

My boyfriend (23m) and I (20f) have known each other for 3 years and have been dating for 1 year. During the first two years that we knew each other. We dated on and off. And we fucked a lot. It was crazy and fun. Super passionate and sometimes a little weird. We had a good time with each other. He’d always get hard ons for me. He’d wake me up in the mornings for sex. I loved sucking his dick and trying my best to make sure he felt good too.. Sometimes it was very loving and sometimes it was very rough (which we both like) But come last year, I found out I was pregnant with our son. When we got back together last December, I noticed how he barely touched me. Or wanted to have sex. It’s been a year now and we maybe only have sex 4-5 times a month. We used to do it all the time. Yes my body changed, but I didn’t get fat. I was really skinny when I got pregnant. I was barely eating due to anxiety and depression. (It wasn’t diagnosed but I definitely also had an eating disorder) But after having my son, I looked exactly the same as I did when we first met. My boobs have changed obviously but it never bothered him. He still loves them. He tells me that it has nothing to do with me. He’s still attracted to me and still loves me. He just doesn’t want sex anymore. My love language is physical touch. Sex is important to me. And once upon a time he could barely keep his hands of off me. Now he never initiates sex and just isn’t interested in it. It’s taken a huge toll on me. I’ve lost my confidence and don’t know how to initiate anything. I don’t even like sucking him off anymore (and it used to be my FAVOURITE thing) I feel like a virgin. Scared and unsure of what to do. He said I need to try harder. He said I need to chase it because he doesn’t know how to chase sometime he doesn’t desire.He used to say that I was an amazing lay. And we used to have the BEST sex. I don’t know what to do. I love him like crazy. I’ve wanted to marry this man since day one. But my heart is breaking. It’s been a year of this, and I feel neglected. Should we try couples counselling? Please someone give me some advice. Even if it’s how to initiate sex because I have no clue anymore. I’ve been trying so hard not to give up on us.