Guy is mad at me for “bailing” on date but he never actually asked me out or planned details?

So a guy I’ve been on one date with (whom was quite rude to waiter on our first date so I wasn’t super eager to see him again) asked me what days I was free this week for a second date. I told him Wednesday (Today). After I told him the day I was free he said “maybe we can see this concert” then completely changed the subject and we go back to talking about other things. He then didnt text me for two days. Today, I don’t hear from him so I assume that we are off. We never made concrete plans, he never told me he bought concert tickets, and I hadn’t heard from him at all until today. At around 5 PM he texts me a ton of question marks and an eye roll emoji. I reply saying “what’s up?” And he says “Seriously? We had plans today.” I’m in complete shock. Mind you I haven’t heard from him in two days, also we never actually made plans with an actually time or place. I tell him “ I assumed our plans were off, because I hadn’t heard from you and we never had a time or place or activity we decided on.” He gets super defensive saying that he thought we were going to the concert. But he never even bought tickets for it. he just mentioned it as an idea (two days ago). At this point I’m getting irritated. I’m not going to book out my entire evening for someone who didn’t make concrete plans with me or confirm them. Am I in the wrong here? How should I handle this? I left him on read because I didn’t know what to say. Also, I didn’t like how defensive he got. I don’t know if I should stay in contact with this person or maybe if I should apologize? But I don’t think I did anything wrong because we didn’t have actual plans, just a day I told him I was free? Help.



Submitted April 15, 2021 at 12:17AM

So a guy I’ve been on one date with (whom was quite rude to waiter on our first date so I wasn’t super eager to see him again) asked me what days I was free this week for a second date. I told him Wednesday (Today). After I told him the day I was free he said “maybe we can see this concert” then completely changed the subject and we go back to talking about other things. He then didnt text me for two days. Today, I don’t hear from him so I assume that we are off. We never made concrete plans, he never told me he bought concert tickets, and I hadn’t heard from him at all until today. At around 5 PM he texts me a ton of question marks and an eye roll emoji. I reply saying “what’s up?” And he says “Seriously? We had plans today.” I’m in complete shock. Mind you I haven’t heard from him in two days, also we never actually made plans with an actually time or place. I tell him “ I assumed our plans were off, because I hadn’t heard from you and we never had a time or place or activity we decided on.” He gets super defensive saying that he thought we were going to the concert. But he never even bought tickets for it. he just mentioned it as an idea (two days ago). At this point I’m getting irritated. I’m not going to book out my entire evening for someone who didn’t make concrete plans with me or confirm them. Am I in the wrong here? How should I handle this? I left him on read because I didn’t know what to say. Also, I didn’t like how defensive he got. I don’t know if I should stay in contact with this person or maybe if I should apologize? But I don’t think I did anything wrong because we didn’t have actual plans, just a day I told him I was free? Help.
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