/u/ragtimeholly on I'm new to the idea of asexuality and want to see if anyone else like me exists

So I basically stopped at the third paragraph because you appear to be describing sexual attraction. If you see/meet women and feel mildly aroused and fantasize about having sex with that particular woman that's sexual attraction.

It sounds like you are sexually attracted to females, which means you're not asexual, but you may be biromantic if you are romantically attracted to men and women.

While some aces feel libido/ desire to have sex we can't feel sexual attraction but if you find it only happens very rarely or only after developing deep emotional bonds you could be on the spectrum (greysexual and demisexual respectively.)

Most of what you described otherwise is pure libido (kinks etc) and yeah def add an nsfw flair for that as some aces are sex repulsed and feel sick at the mention of specific acts of sex. I'm not repulsed and I'm pretty open about sex talk but even I had to skim past a lot of details lol

It could be that sex just isn't super physically pleasurable for you or you don't really value it that much ? If you watch a lot of porn very often there is also a chance you're feeling the side effects that porn addiction has -- that is, dissociation when having real life sexual experiences. Or else your kinks may be so strong it's hard for you to climax without imagining pornographic situations.

No matter what, I think it's important to note that you're not "broken" -- everyone is different and everyone has a different relationship with sex and sexual activities. It's important to find your boundaries and enforce them with partners and try not to judge yourself or get down on yourself for your own nuances.





August 03, 2020 at 12:04AM
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