Might be falling for my FWB and need advice

Hey everyone, long time lurker, first time poster. I'm hoping to get some advice about a situation I'm currently in. Pretty obvious given the title, but I'll give some background info:

I (31F) have been sleeping with "Jeff" (31M) for about 3-4 months. I've actually known Jeff a long time. We went to school together back in the day, and we were friendly with one another, but not close friends. We ran in some of the same circles. Fast forward about 15 years, here we are in a pandemic. He DMed me on social media (yes I'm purposefully being vague, I have no idea if he's on reddit, that would be embarrassing) because he thought a couple of my posts were funny. We chatted for a few days on that platform, during which he admitted he "always had a thing for me." I didn't really say anything back because I don't remember ever having a thing for HIM, and I didn't want to put myself in a situation where I would be expected to behave romantically, if that makes sense. We moved to chatting over text after a couple days.

I told him to come by my apartment, since my neighbor and I would be hanging out outside in the courtyard, and we could catch up over beers. He brought a gift (nothing big, it was a grocery item that I joked he should buy for me at the store, and he did), and we talked for a few hours. He went home. We kept chatting over the next couple weeks.

Now, you don't know me, but I have a tendency to ruin potential romantic "entanglements" because I over-sexualize myself. This is new. I didn't start doing this until my late 20s. Not sure where it came from, but here we are. Anyway, so the chatting continues, getting more and more suggestive, and he comes over one night and we end up having sex (he displayed concern for me possibly thinking it was moving too fast but I didn't think so). We've had sex probably at least once a week since then and it's great.

So, my problem - this was all fine and good until a few weeks ago when I thought I might be starting to have feelings for him. Now I'm not sure what to do. I have no idea if he still has that "thing" for me, or if that went away after he got to know me as an adult. We like to give each other a hard time, and he always makes fun of me for saying the wrong thing or overthinking or just being generally wound up. Sometimes I think he might actually he exasperated at my "antics," but I overthink, as stated above, and he doesn't talk much, so that leaves more empty space to overthink. We talk to each other every day, and I at least don't THINK he's tired of me yet.

What would you guys do? Would you say something? Would you wait until the feelings are fully formed (if they EVER fully form)? How would you lay it all out on the table?

Submitted August 21, 2020 at 11:50PM

Hey everyone, long time lurker, first time poster. I'm hoping to get some advice about a situation I'm currently in. Pretty obvious given the title, but I'll give some background info:I (31F) have been sleeping with "Jeff" (31M) for about 3-4 months. I've actually known Jeff a long time. We went to school together back in the day, and we were friendly with one another, but not close friends. We ran in some of the same circles. Fast forward about 15 years, here we are in a pandemic. He DMed me on social media (yes I'm purposefully being vague, I have no idea if he's on reddit, that would be embarrassing) because he thought a couple of my posts were funny. We chatted for a few days on that platform, during which he admitted he "always had a thing for me." I didn't really say anything back because I don't remember ever having a thing for HIM, and I didn't want to put myself in a situation where I would be expected to behave romantically, if that makes sense. We moved to chatting over text after a couple days.I told him to come by my apartment, since my neighbor and I would be hanging out outside in the courtyard, and we could catch up over beers. He brought a gift (nothing big, it was a grocery item that I joked he should buy for me at the store, and he did), and we talked for a few hours. He went home. We kept chatting over the next couple weeks.Now, you don't know me, but I have a tendency to ruin potential romantic "entanglements" because I over-sexualize myself. This is new. I didn't start doing this until my late 20s. Not sure where it came from, but here we are. Anyway, so the chatting continues, getting more and more suggestive, and he comes over one night and we end up having sex (he displayed concern for me possibly thinking it was moving too fast but I didn't think so). We've had sex probably at least once a week since then and it's great.So, my problem - this was all fine and good until a few weeks ago when I thought I might be starting to have feelings for him. Now I'm not sure what to do. I have no idea if he still has that "thing" for me, or if that went away after he got to know me as an adult. We like to give each other a hard time, and he always makes fun of me for saying the wrong thing or overthinking or just being generally wound up. Sometimes I think he might actually he exasperated at my "antics," but I overthink, as stated above, and he doesn't talk much, so that leaves more empty space to overthink. We talk to each other every day, and I at least don't THINK he's tired of me yet.What would you guys do? Would you say something? Would you wait until the feelings are fully formed (if they EVER fully form)? How would you lay it all out on the table?