My friend is confused and I have no idea what to tell her! She is 35 m(40)

A friend of mine (I swear it's not me) has been dating a guy since September 2019. They've known each other for years prior. She really loves him, but the problem is she has no idea where he stays. He's never asked her to come over to his house, and even when he had a house warming party she wasn't invited. He keeps telling her that he's in a committed relationship with her. But she feels different. He barely texts or calls her. She only meets him in hotel rooms when he's traveling for work and nobody in his family knows about her. Her family does indeed know about him.

She loves this man, but she doesn't want to give him too much because she feels like he isn't serious about her.

Last thing, they were together a couple of months ago, and while he was showing her something on his phone a woman texted saying "you going to come get this pussy". He claims the girl did it to be petty because she knew they were together.

He refuses to block her, and he's still in constant contact with women he's been in a relationship with or women he's had sex with.

Because of covid she's been asking him to go out with her, he told her he couldn't because his mother lives with him and has lupus (an autoimmune disease) she understood it and it made sense. A few days ago, he tells her he's at two different restaurants with a friend because he hasn't seen the friend in a year.

She says anytime she voices her feelings to them he just pushes it to the side.

Should she stay, should she go, what do you think.

Submitted July 18, 2020 at 11:37PM

A friend of mine (I swear it's not me) has been dating a guy since September 2019. They've known each other for years prior. She really loves him, but the problem is she has no idea where he stays. He's never asked her to come over to his house, and even when he had a house warming party she wasn't invited. He keeps telling her that he's in a committed relationship with her. But she feels different. He barely texts or calls her. She only meets him in hotel rooms when he's traveling for work and nobody in his family knows about her. Her family does indeed know about him.She loves this man, but she doesn't want to give him too much because she feels like he isn't serious about her.Last thing, they were together a couple of months ago, and while he was showing her something on his phone a woman texted saying "you going to come get this pussy". He claims the girl did it to be petty because she knew they were together.He refuses to block her, and he's still in constant contact with women he's been in a relationship with or women he's had sex with.Because of covid she's been asking him to go out with her, he told her he couldn't because his mother lives with him and has lupus (an autoimmune disease) she understood it and it made sense. A few days ago, he tells her he's at two different restaurants with a friend because he hasn't seen the friend in a year.She says anytime she voices her feelings to them he just pushes it to the side.Should she stay, should she go, what do you think.