I think there’s something fundamentally wrong with some sometimes. Horrible relationship history.

title edit: wrong with me** sometimes

here’s my story: i f(22) can’t keep a man. i literally cannot get a man to stay. it doesn’t matter what i do or don’t do, they always leave me for someone else.

i’m someone who usually is emotionally secure, and emotionally available. i’ve dealt with most of my trauma, i’m really attractive, educated and like i’m really good with people. i’m typically good at getting what i want except a guy i like.

it’s a pattern. honestly since i was 12. i meet a guy, he likes me, borderline obsessed and thinks i’m out of his league. i get to know him, and then after a few months, he dumps me....and 90% of the time get into a long term relationship with someone else. this is a pattern since i was 12. the only long distance relationship i’ve been in was a year long with a guy that i wasn’t really interested in.

there’s been 8 guys that this has happened with since i was 12. i don’t like guys often but when i do, they typically like me back, then don’t, then date someone else and in some cases marry them. i’m tired of picking myself up, and rebuilding my confidence. i don’t know what’s wrong with me and i wish someone would tell me tbh.

the last two cases:

1 - a guys who liked me and flirted for almost a year, but i was moving so it couldn’t move further. 2 weeks after that he got into a relationship with my friends sister and they got married.

2 - a guy i met and he liked me, was a little emotionally unavailable but constantly trying to prove his like for me. said he was being careful because he has been burned in the past. we broke up during quarantine because he said quar was difficult to start a relationship. literally one month later he is in a relationship with a different person, and she posted screenshots of him complimenting her, and showering her with so much love, asking to ft with her and all. it’s like that’s how i wish he would treat me but like they never do.

i’m tired, i feel down, and i’m tired of getting hurt. i honestly don’t feel like i can trust guys anymore but i also don’t wanna generalize. i’m literally always honest, i let them know if i’m dating others, i let them know if i’m feeling something, i initiate sometimes. like i just don’t get it and i feel bad about myself.

Submitted May 26, 2020 at 12:04AM

title edit: wrong with me** sometimeshere’s my story: i f(22) can’t keep a man. i literally cannot get a man to stay. it doesn’t matter what i do or don’t do, they always leave me for someone else.i’m someone who usually is emotionally secure, and emotionally available. i’ve dealt with most of my trauma, i’m really attractive, educated and like i’m really good with people. i’m typically good at getting what i want except a guy i like.it’s a pattern. honestly since i was 12. i meet a guy, he likes me, borderline obsessed and thinks i’m out of his league. i get to know him, and then after a few months, he dumps me....and 90% of the time get into a long term relationship with someone else. this is a pattern since i was 12. the only long distance relationship i’ve been in was a year long with a guy that i wasn’t really interested in.there’s been 8 guys that this has happened with since i was 12. i don’t like guys often but when i do, they typically like me back, then don’t, then date someone else and in some cases marry them. i’m tired of picking myself up, and rebuilding my confidence. i don’t know what’s wrong with me and i wish someone would tell me tbh.the last two cases:1 - a guys who liked me and flirted for almost a year, but i was moving so it couldn’t move further. 2 weeks after that he got into a relationship with my friends sister and they got married.2 - a guy i met and he liked me, was a little emotionally unavailable but constantly trying to prove his like for me. said he was being careful because he has been burned in the past. we broke up during quarantine because he said quar was difficult to start a relationship. literally one month later he is in a relationship with a different person, and she posted screenshots of him complimenting her, and showering her with so much love, asking to ft with her and all. it’s like that’s how i wish he would treat me but like they never do.i’m tired, i feel down, and i’m tired of getting hurt. i honestly don’t feel like i can trust guys anymore but i also don’t wanna generalize. i’m literally always honest, i let them know if i’m dating others, i let them know if i’m feeling something, i initiate sometimes. like i just don’t get it and i feel bad about myself.