I think my marriage may be over

I had a breakdown tonight. I’m 7 months postpartum and things have settled down for the most part with my baby. She had pretty bad reflux, so we had a tough time for a few months, but gradually things got better and it’s been good for the most part, until tonight. She was crying for the better part of the day, very fussy and seemed like she was in pain. Her crying gives me very bad anxiety, plus I’m pretty much in charge of taking care of the baby, feeding, naps etc. so I was extremely exhausted. I felt super dizzy when I went to bed and asked my husband about it, he said my blood pressures probably dropped because I’m tired. About an hour later I woke up and felt like I was having a panic attack. Baby woke up at the same time and I woke up my husband to get her because I was unable. He was upset, he went and put her down and come out of her room. I was crying at that point from the panic attack and he was acting so angry, this made me even more upset and I started crying louder and louder, coiled over on the floor and woke the baby up. He was livid at this point and started making fun of my sobbing. He tried feeding the baby and calm her but he doesn’t know how to, so after a while I was able to calm and compose myself and went to settle her. He wouldn’t give her to me, he was furious, and I told him to give me my baby and get out of my house. He got dressed and left.

I am absolutely horrified at how he treated me in a moment of crisis, and I feel like I do not want to be with him anymore. Overall our relationship has been good, we’ve been together more than 13 years with almost no problems, but his lack of help at home and with the baby has been building for some time and after today I’m flabbergasted. I don’t know if I can move on from this.



Submitted March 01, 2020 at 11:23PM

I had a breakdown tonight. I’m 7 months postpartum and things have settled down for the most part with my baby. She had pretty bad reflux, so we had a tough time for a few months, but gradually things got better and it’s been good for the most part, until tonight. She was crying for the better part of the day, very fussy and seemed like she was in pain. Her crying gives me very bad anxiety, plus I’m pretty much in charge of taking care of the baby, feeding, naps etc. so I was extremely exhausted. I felt super dizzy when I went to bed and asked my husband about it, he said my blood pressures probably dropped because I’m tired. About an hour later I woke up and felt like I was having a panic attack. Baby woke up at the same time and I woke up my husband to get her because I was unable. He was upset, he went and put her down and come out of her room. I was crying at that point from the panic attack and he was acting so angry, this made me even more upset and I started crying louder and louder, coiled over on the floor and woke the baby up. He was livid at this point and started making fun of my sobbing. He tried feeding the baby and calm her but he doesn’t know how to, so after a while I was able to calm and compose myself and went to settle her. He wouldn’t give her to me, he was furious, and I told him to give me my baby and get out of my house. He got dressed and left.I am absolutely horrified at how he treated me in a moment of crisis, and I feel like I do not want to be with him anymore. Overall our relationship has been good, we’ve been together more than 13 years with almost no problems, but his lack of help at home and with the baby has been building for some time and after today I’m flabbergasted. I don’t know if I can move on from this.
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