Why would my husband not want to bring cake to work?

Kinda long because I’m a wordy fucker (lol!). TL;DR at the bottom.

I had a birthday recently, and a neighbor friend bought a cake for me (so lovely!). It’s too big for two people to eat (we don’t have kids), so I asked my husband to take it into work with him. He reluctantly agreed, but as he was leaving the next morning, he said he didn’t want to take it. Later that day, I texted him about it. He suggested taking off the icing (he doesn’t like it) and putting it in the freezer. I said I was fine with that as long as he was willing to eat all of it (I like sweets but I’m not wildly excited by cake). I also said I wanted him to set reminders for himself because we’re both guilty of putting food in the freezer and not eating it.

He didn’t reply to that message, though we later texted about other things. When he got home, I asked if he was embarrassed by the cake. He had previously brought three small cakes from Whole Foods to work (to give to his boss and two coworkers, not the whole office), and this cake came from a grocery store. I thought maybe he believed this hum-drum cake would reflect poorly on him. No, he said he wasn’t, then he blew up at me and said he didn’t want to talk about it. I said I just wanted a reason for why he didn’t want to take the cake into work. He repeated that he didn’t want to (which I said wasn’t a reason) and stormed into his office.

So, yeah, various “things” going on here, but foremost in my mind is this — why the hell doesn’t he want to take the cake into the office? I’m not asking out of anger; I’m genuinely perplexed. The only reason I can come up with is that he’s embarrassed, which he either isn’t (as he said) or isn’t admitting to (as his communication skills are obviously not great and/or he’s trying to shut down any further discussion).

Clearly I think bringing cake to work is a perfectly reasonable thing to do. He works in a white-collar job, where I know there’s a refrigerator and coffeemaker. When I was younger and baked more, I’d bring cake and other things to my workplace all the time. So why doesn’t my husband want to do this? Am I being dense? Can anyone think of a reason? (Unfortunately, no, I can’t bring it to my office because I don’t work because I have cancer and blah, blah, blah.) So... thoughts??

TL;DR - Hubby refuses to bring cake to work for coworkers to eat. Don’t know why. Can anyone think of a reason?

Submitted October 24, 2019 at 12:01AM

Kinda long because I’m a wordy fucker (lol!). TL;DR at the bottom.I had a birthday recently, and a neighbor friend bought a cake for me (so lovely!). It’s too big for two people to eat (we don’t have kids), so I asked my husband to take it into work with him. He reluctantly agreed, but as he was leaving the next morning, he said he didn’t want to take it. Later that day, I texted him about it. He suggested taking off the icing (he doesn’t like it) and putting it in the freezer. I said I was fine with that as long as he was willing to eat all of it (I like sweets but I’m not wildly excited by cake). I also said I wanted him to set reminders for himself because we’re both guilty of putting food in the freezer and not eating it.He didn’t reply to that message, though we later texted about other things. When he got home, I asked if he was embarrassed by the cake. He had previously brought three small cakes from Whole Foods to work (to give to his boss and two coworkers, not the whole office), and this cake came from a grocery store. I thought maybe he believed this hum-drum cake would reflect poorly on him. No, he said he wasn’t, then he blew up at me and said he didn’t want to talk about it. I said I just wanted a reason for why he didn’t want to take the cake into work. He repeated that he didn’t want to (which I said wasn’t a reason) and stormed into his office.So, yeah, various “things” going on here, but foremost in my mind is this — why the hell doesn’t he want to take the cake into the office? I’m not asking out of anger; I’m genuinely perplexed. The only reason I can come up with is that he’s embarrassed, which he either isn’t (as he said) or isn’t admitting to (as his communication skills are obviously not great and/or he’s trying to shut down any further discussion).Clearly I think bringing cake to work is a perfectly reasonable thing to do. He works in a white-collar job, where I know there’s a refrigerator and coffeemaker. When I was younger and baked more, I’d bring cake and other things to my workplace all the time. So why doesn’t my husband want to do this? Am I being dense? Can anyone think of a reason? (Unfortunately, no, I can’t bring it to my office because I don’t work because I have cancer and blah, blah, blah.) So... thoughts??TL;DR - Hubby refuses to bring cake to work for coworkers to eat. Don’t know why. Can anyone think of a reason?