Feeling down after trying out dating app, what do?

Hey so here's the deal. 17m here, I recently discovered that there's this dating app for people who are underage. It's labeled as making friends but really it's like Tinder for teens. I came in there and I tried it for 3 days. Unfortunately knowing I'm a teen in an environment that has the likes of Tinder, I feel very sad and like my confidence took a blow to the stomach

I started out by not putting my face on profile, on day 1 I got no matches and I was figuring stuff out. Day 2 (yesterday) took a heavy toll on me emotionally, I bit off more than I could chew and started getting matches left and right, I had to work and do laundry that day so this was no easy task. I unmatched with a lot people becuase they didn't find me interesting which already made me feel bad go begin with. I just felt like compared to other guys I was boring, unfunny, unconfident and stupid as well. I had a lead on 3 girls. One of which I just completely fell in love with for being kind, relatable, beautiful, and liked me and still stuck with me despite me knowing what I looked like.

It was very late night and I decided to finally put up my pictures and interests dropped HARD. From like 10pm to 1am I began feeling self conscious like not only am I ugly but alo uninteresting. I told many girls to look at mi bio for my pic and I got unmatched 3-5 times.

I'm a aware that I'm not a hideous abomination of mankind but compared to what girls said they're looking for, I don't have much to offer. It took a big toll on me but at the end of day I had that 1 girl I previously mentioned. I vented out my problems to her and she actually helped me out and made me feel better about myself. I told her that I was really interested in her and would like to talk to her more, she agreed

So we're here today. I went from waking up and having at least 5 matches to literally having none. I decided to take a break and do my chores so I could at least talk to that 1 girl. We texted for a while in the morning aaaand the ghosted me. Presumably because she found someone better or was lying to me

This was the straw that broke the camel's back. I deleted my account and I came out of this way worse than before. I came out of this knowing the reason I haven't had a girlfriend in 4 years and why nobody likes me is because I'm ugly, stupid, uninteresting, and at the bottom compared to other boys.

I'm starting school and it's my senior year so emotionally I cannot be in this state right now. I was doing fine my whole summer taking anti depressant pills, doing workouts and trying to be the my best self so I can come back to school with a smile and confidence but this app completely knocked me out and I'm feeling like complete dogshit

What can I do about this?



Submitted August 10, 2019 at 11:22PM

Hey so here's the deal. 17m here, I recently discovered that there's this dating app for people who are underage. It's labeled as making friends but really it's like Tinder for teens. I came in there and I tried it for 3 days. Unfortunately knowing I'm a teen in an environment that has the likes of Tinder, I feel very sad and like my confidence took a blow to the stomachI started out by not putting my face on profile, on day 1 I got no matches and I was figuring stuff out. Day 2 (yesterday) took a heavy toll on me emotionally, I bit off more than I could chew and started getting matches left and right, I had to work and do laundry that day so this was no easy task. I unmatched with a lot people becuase they didn't find me interesting which already made me feel bad go begin with. I just felt like compared to other guys I was boring, unfunny, unconfident and stupid as well. I had a lead on 3 girls. One of which I just completely fell in love with for being kind, relatable, beautiful, and liked me and still stuck with me despite me knowing what I looked like.It was very late night and I decided to finally put up my pictures and interests dropped HARD. From like 10pm to 1am I began feeling self conscious like not only am I ugly but alo uninteresting. I told many girls to look at mi bio for my pic and I got unmatched 3-5 times.I'm a aware that I'm not a hideous abomination of mankind but compared to what girls said they're looking for, I don't have much to offer. It took a big toll on me but at the end of day I had that 1 girl I previously mentioned. I vented out my problems to her and she actually helped me out and made me feel better about myself. I told her that I was really interested in her and would like to talk to her more, she agreedSo we're here today. I went from waking up and having at least 5 matches to literally having none. I decided to take a break and do my chores so I could at least talk to that 1 girl. We texted for a while in the morning aaaand the ghosted me. Presumably because she found someone better or was lying to meThis was the straw that broke the camel's back. I deleted my account and I came out of this way worse than before. I came out of this knowing the reason I haven't had a girlfriend in 4 years and why nobody likes me is because I'm ugly, stupid, uninteresting, and at the bottom compared to other boys.I'm starting school and it's my senior year so emotionally I cannot be in this state right now. I was doing fine my whole summer taking anti depressant pills, doing workouts and trying to be the my best self so I can come back to school with a smile and confidence but this app completely knocked me out and I'm feeling like complete dogshitWhat can I do about this?
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