It’s based on the mentality that you owe your (future) spouse your body, may it be for fun or reproduction. Refusing to do any of that seems ludicrous to allos since sexual attraction is a core part of their experience as an adult human being, so the conclusion is you‘re refusal is out of malevolent reasons. Remember all those jokes about the wifes punishing misbehaving husbands by refusing to have sex in media? They accuse aces of that mindset. I had a similar conversation with a family friend years ago (when I was still questioning but certainly about not wanting children). I was questioned about my lack of offspring and unmarried status and I plainly answered I didn‘t want any. I was told that‘s unfair to my future husband and that he would leave me if I didn‘t change my mind. (Again, I was single and while I phrased my sentences hypothetical my conversation partner treated it as a given. Also, heteronormativity much.) If I knew and said I’m asexual guess that conversation would h...

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Gender, sexual, romantic minority. Basically covers everyone that isn't cis, heterosexual, and heteroromantic. As more letters get added on to lgbtq+, it gets a bit unwieldy to mention all of them. lgbtqiaa2spp+ doesn't roll off the tongue easily. September 19, 2021 at 12:49AM

It goes by the first letter of each word. September 19, 2021 at 12:49AM

Hello, probably a strange question but I am freaking out. I'm an 18-year-old college freshman and I met this girl through a mutual friend. All three of us have been hanging out almost every day since school started 4 weeks ago and we have a lot of fun. Lately, though, our mutual friend (a gay man) has been making jokes about me and this girl having sex. I've identified as a lesbian for a year and have had 2 girlfriends but I've never gone that far with either of them since they were both online and I only met them in person a few times. A week ago my friend was pressuring me into having sex with the girl and the girl said she would but I said I felt uncomfortable and wasn't willing to. So my friend (the gay man) was like "ok you have a week to make your decision, either yes you want to have sex with her or no." And apparently, I can't change my mind about the decision later. Well, a week went by and I still haven't made my decision. Like, I want to ex...

Hey, I'm (m17 vrgin) currently watching Sex education on Netflix and it made me realize that I'm so used to watch Classic mainstream porn with girls that have the so called "perfect body" that when i'll met girls irl and have sex with them i might get disappointed or repulsed at first bcs they won't have the pussy/body i see almost every day online, i think my taste got set to the porn norms and they aren't realistic at all... am i right to worry about that or it'll be fine? Submitted September 19, 2021 at 12:42AM Hey,I'm (m17 vrgin) currently watching Sex education on Netflix and it made me realize that I'm so used to watch Classic mainstream porn with girls that have the so called "perfect body" that when i'll met girls irl and have sex with them i might get disappointed or repulsed at first bcs they won't have the pussy/body i see almost every day online, i think my taste got set to the porn norms and they aren...

I (23f) and a guy who lives down the road (21m) met walking our dogs and hit it off. I really enjoy spending time with him and he is such a sweet human. We are both on the same page as we don't plan to live in the same place very long (I want to live in another country and he is in the army and travels a good amount). So we are sort of friends with benefits. I find him extremely attractive and like is personality. The issue is that he moans like a girl during sex. He doesn't have much experience (only one other girl when he was 17). I usually don't have an issue explaining what I like, however I would never want to hurt his feelings or make him self conscious. However his moaning really does turn me off completely. Would I be a dick if I told him this, and should avoid the convo all together? Or if not, how should I go about starting that convo? Any advise is very appreciated! Submitted September 19, 2021 at 12:46AM I (23f) and a guy who lives down the road (21m) ...