I personally relate to this quite a bit. Still "new" to the scene. I consider myself very romantic as well and have only some idea on what I want from a relationship and have no clue about how to go about actually getting a girlfriend. March 16, 2021 at 12:03AM

Based on your OP you said you may be asexual, but aren't certain. Also you say the sex is meh. If you think you may be asexual, I would try seeing if you have a support group at your university. Determine if you are LL or asexual and what type (sex favorable, sex neutral, sex repulsed) you are before telling you SO. Technically asexually is not feeling sexual attraction. You may be allosexual or asexual and still don't initiate (responsive sexual desire) or enjoy sex. Read up on asexuality in the about tab of this sub. Very informative Read up on response I've sexual desire by Nagoski. https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/when-urge-is-uneven-understanding-universe-of-sexual-desire-0206185 Read up on how to have better sex. Both allosexuals and asexuals can have good or bad sex. There is a link or female and male virgins as well as for better sex. https://moderntantra.blogspot.com/2017/12/better-sex-101.html?m=1 I hope these resources as well as resources at you...

That's okay if you don't know for sure! Asexuals can still enjoy sex, it's just the attraction that isn't there (although you could totally still be romantically attracted). You might want to do some reading on it if you think that asexuality is a possibility. Or if you feel more like it is sexual attraction, then that's fine too! It's normal to be unsure of what exactly you're feeling, but I'm sure you'll figure it out. In the meantime, it sounds like you're already in a happy relationship, so I wouldn't worry too much about any uncertainty you have. March 16, 2021 at 12:03AM

I agree, a naked person is like a naked mannequin to me: where's the imagination? What's the point? I know what people look like naked, it's not particularly interesting or novel since I don't get the sexual thoughts that usually make them enticing for allos. However, even things like swimwear or highly, impractically skimpy clothing, things some allos might prefer to complete nudity, still are kinda boring to me, because (I'm guessing here) for them, they cover up the "enticing parts" to leave them to their imagination and fantasy, while for me, all I see is a conveniently covered naked person with just a little style. There are some swimwear that can kinda appeal to me if they're interesting enough, but they're usually leagues behind things like tuxedos, uniforms, dresses, casual wear, things that really win me over, where actual style can be implemented. For me, my aesthetic attraction is half-the outfit, half-the person wearing it. I'm no...

Trans women are REAL women. That's just how that is. This conversation is very pointless and we're going in circles, I'm going to go ahead and end it with this: In another comment to someone else, you mentioned hating Trump, does that mean you also hate trump supporters? Your certainly acting like them right now, "This is a fact" "well, actually no, it's not" "I'm going to ignore what you just said and keep pretending I know what I'm talking about, yay!" I believe the right word to describe you would be Ignorant. I hate to break it to you, but no, Homosexuals are not more likely to be pedophiles, I disproved that with factual evidence in an earlier comment. If you can't accept that you were wrong, and that facts don't lie, you're no different from crazy trump supporters that are insisting that the world is stupid for thinking Biden won the US election. Thats all. Have a nice day. March 15, 2021 at 11:59PM...

The sooner you tell your partner the better. Otherwise it can start feeling like you're not being honest to her. Say it in a really nice way and make sure to say what she means to you. That way you can let her know that you are not rejecting the relationship but mainly trying to set boundaries and be honest with her about the way you feel. March 15, 2021 at 11:59PM

Sorry For the late response! I suppose it is totally possible that what I thought was sexual attraction is just romantic attraction. but I think it is sexual attraction too because I think I like the idea of having sex with him I'm just not super interested in actually doing it? March 15, 2021 at 11:57PM