Unsure of how to move from here.

I (35M) have been seeing a girl (36F) for around 3 weeks. We met on a dating app and after a bit of chatting we met up for a coffee. The vibe was very nice since the start and all felt natural. For the second date we met in the afternoon for food and we stayed together until late for drinks and ended up at my place for chats (no sex). For the third date we had dinner at my place and she stayed over; we ended up having sex that night. The day after she asked me to go to the cinema, which we did, but straight after the movie the vibe was suddenly different, colder I'd say. We were supposed to go for dinner, but she said that she was feeling tired and wanted to go home (fair).

The days after the movie date I felt that she wasn't engaged that much when we were texting. As we used to text eachother normally, I sent her a text on a frieday evening, nothing really important, but she didn't answer at all until I texted her again on the next Monday morning. At that point I was already wondering if she changed her mind, but texted her again because we planned to go for dinner that week and I wanted to check if she was still up for it. She confirmed on the Monday, but then she texted me on the Tuesday morning to cancel, saying that she was busy with work and that it wasn't the best time to meet. I was a bit disappointed of her change of mind because we were both supposed to travel for the Christmas holidays, which meant that we were not going to see each other for the next three weeks. For this reason, I told her that I didn't mind postponing our dinner to the new year (she actually used these words when she cancelled the dinner), but I asked her if she was still interested in getting to know eachother. I told her that I liked her and liked how we were getting to know each other, and I just wanted to know where we were standing in terms of expectations and mutual interests. Her reply was a bit tepid, not really expressing how she felt about me. She kinda said that it was all good on her side, but she didn't really sound convincing. I told her that I understood and agreed to catch up in the new year.

We haven't spoke to each other since then. We haven't texted at all over the last two weeks and won't be able to meet for sure until the new year. I am not sure if we are going to ever speak again at this point. I hate rejections and I don't like being ignored when I text someone. It might be silly, but I don't want to text her just to be ignored again. I am still open to see her, but I don't think that she will reach out first. The situation got to a very awkward point and it will only get more awkward if we keep not talking to each other.

I am not sure how to move from this, I am not sure if I should try or just let it go. Someone told me that the man should chase the woman, but I am afraid that her behaviour means that she has no interest in me anymore. I feel quite sad about the whole situation and it's affecting my mood and confidence.

Submitted December 25, 2023 at 12:14AM

I (35M) have been seeing a girl (36F) for around 3 weeks. We met on a dating app and after a bit of chatting we met up for a coffee. The vibe was very nice since the start and all felt natural. For the second date we met in the afternoon for food and we stayed together until late for drinks and ended up at my place for chats (no sex). For the third date we had dinner at my place and she stayed over; we ended up having sex that night. The day after she asked me to go to the cinema, which we did, but straight after the movie the vibe was suddenly different, colder I'd say. We were supposed to go for dinner, but she said that she was feeling tired and wanted to go home (fair). The days after the movie date I felt that she wasn't engaged that much when we were texting. As we used to text eachother normally, I sent her a text on a frieday evening, nothing really important, but she didn't answer at all until I texted her again on the next Monday morning. At that point I was already wondering if she changed her mind, but texted her again because we planned to go for dinner that week and I wanted to check if she was still up for it. She confirmed on the Monday, but then she texted me on the Tuesday morning to cancel, saying that she was busy with work and that it wasn't the best time to meet. I was a bit disappointed of her change of mind because we were both supposed to travel for the Christmas holidays, which meant that we were not going to see each other for the next three weeks. For this reason, I told her that I didn't mind postponing our dinner to the new year (she actually used these words when she cancelled the dinner), but I asked her if she was still interested in getting to know eachother. I told her that I liked her and liked how we were getting to know each other, and I just wanted to know where we were standing in terms of expectations and mutual interests. Her reply was a bit tepid, not really expressing how she felt about me. She kinda said that it was all good on her side, but she didn't really sound convincing. I told her that I understood and agreed to catch up in the new year. We haven't spoke to each other since then. We haven't texted at all over the last two weeks and won't be able to meet for sure until the new year. I am not sure if we are going to ever speak again at this point. I hate rejections and I don't like being ignored when I text someone. It might be silly, but I don't want to text her just to be ignored again. I am still open to see her, but I don't think that she will reach out first. The situation got to a very awkward point and it will only get more awkward if we keep not talking to each other. I am not sure how to move from this, I am not sure if I should try or just let it go. Someone told me that the man should chase the woman, but I am afraid that her behaviour means that she has no interest in me anymore. I feel quite sad about the whole situation and it's affecting my mood and confidence.