Should I move on

Me and my (ex) bf was dating for around 2 months and recently he told me he wanted us to take a step back from a “relationship”. He said he still liked me a lot but at the moment he feels like he needs more time and space for himself and be on his own and spends time for self development that he cannot fully involve in “dating” with anyone anymore. I totally understand and thought it was reasonable and acceptable if he thinks being in a relationship requires a lot of responsibilities which he cannot handle at the moment. I can’t force someone to date me any way. Despite the decision to take a break from dating, we both talked things through and agreed that we still had feelings for each other so we wouldn’t stop caring for each other and still wanted to keep each other in our lives by staying friends (more than normal friends). Yet, things feel very off recently with communication between us. It takes him so long just to check my messages. Of course I didn’t expect him, who is no longer my bf, to get back to me right away or something especially if he was busy with his own affairs. And it’s very good for him to be offscreen as well. It seems fine to me until a point when I realized that I once sent him several texts because I had something important to say but he seemed to ignore it for hours. I found out that he was actually active on instagram but instead of sparing one minute to react to my messages, he would rather follow more people and like instagram girls’ posts. Is it clear that he is no longer interested? Should I just move on? I just feel upset because he lied to me that he still cared and that he still wanted me in his life. Meanwhile, he seems to prefer including those instagram girls to having my presence in his life.

Submitted October 12, 2023 at 12:16AM

Me and my (ex) bf was dating for around 2 months and recently he told me he wanted us to take a step back from a “relationship”. He said he still liked me a lot but at the moment he feels like he needs more time and space for himself and be on his own and spends time for self development that he cannot fully involve in “dating” with anyone anymore. I totally understand and thought it was reasonable and acceptable if he thinks being in a relationship requires a lot of responsibilities which he cannot handle at the moment. I can’t force someone to date me any way. Despite the decision to take a break from dating, we both talked things through and agreed that we still had feelings for each other so we wouldn’t stop caring for each other and still wanted to keep each other in our lives by staying friends (more than normal friends). Yet, things feel very off recently with communication between us. It takes him so long just to check my messages. Of course I didn’t expect him, who is no longer my bf, to get back to me right away or something especially if he was busy with his own affairs. And it’s very good for him to be offscreen as well. It seems fine to me until a point when I realized that I once sent him several texts because I had something important to say but he seemed to ignore it for hours. I found out that he was actually active on instagram but instead of sparing one minute to react to my messages, he would rather follow more people and like instagram girls’ posts. Is it clear that he is no longer interested? Should I just move on? I just feel upset because he lied to me that he still cared and that he still wanted me in his life. Meanwhile, he seems to prefer including those instagram girls to having my presence in his life.