Mutual feelings became one sided.

Currently in high school, made a new couple friends, including this great guy. We started to get to know each other a couple months back. Before school we’d talk, we had one class where we would talk a bunch when there was freetime , at break we’d be near each other, in another class we also spent time together, and after school we’d walk together. Eventually, I caught feelings for this guy after spending so much time with each other, he truly was the perfect guy for me. When I found out through a friend of mine he liked me a lot (he didn’t know I liked him though) too, (showed me text proofs of him gushing over me) I was so happy. This would have been my first relationship, and his too, as told by my friend. I never felt feelings like that for anyone, he genuinely made me so happy. So at that point, we weren’t dating, it sorta became a talking stage except he didn’t know my feelings. But after this week, things started going downhill. Our classes started to get serious, meaning there was no time to talk, we started spending less time with each other due to that, and so every time me and him tried to converse it ended up being cut short because we just didn’t know what to say to each other. It became awkward real fast. He started being distant, spending time with his other friends more, and it left me heartbroken. Later, my friend admitted to me he told her he didn’t like me anymore. Her and another friend mentioned it was an on and off thing where he stopped liking me, then liked me, then stopped and so on, so I still had a chance to gain his love back. But with the state our friendship alone is in now, it’s making me lose hope. I really like him and don’t want to lose him. Please, how can I try to salvage our relationship?

Submitted October 28, 2023 at 12:09AM

Currently in high school, made a new couple friends, including this great guy. We started to get to know each other a couple months back. Before school we’d talk, we had one class where we would talk a bunch when there was freetime , at break we’d be near each other, in another class we also spent time together, and after school we’d walk together. Eventually, I caught feelings for this guy after spending so much time with each other, he truly was the perfect guy for me. When I found out through a friend of mine he liked me a lot (he didn’t know I liked him though) too, (showed me text proofs of him gushing over me) I was so happy. This would have been my first relationship, and his too, as told by my friend. I never felt feelings like that for anyone, he genuinely made me so happy. So at that point, we weren’t dating, it sorta became a talking stage except he didn’t know my feelings. But after this week, things started going downhill. Our classes started to get serious, meaning there was no time to talk, we started spending less time with each other due to that, and so every time me and him tried to converse it ended up being cut short because we just didn’t know what to say to each other. It became awkward real fast. He started being distant, spending time with his other friends more, and it left me heartbroken. Later, my friend admitted to me he told her he didn’t like me anymore. Her and another friend mentioned it was an on and off thing where he stopped liking me, then liked me, then stopped and so on, so I still had a chance to gain his love back. But with the state our friendship alone is in now, it’s making me lose hope. I really like him and don’t want to lose him. Please, how can I try to salvage our relationship?