Was I out of line for messaging my exs new gf after I felt like she over stepped?

My ex of 4 years (25m) and I (24f) dated for 4 years throughout college ages 18-22. Because of that, we have many mutual friends from college. Almost every friend that we made in college is mutual to both of us. We didn’t end very amicably, but we’ve been able to maintain peaceful friendships with all of our mutual friends. My ex and I rarely communicate and we even live in different states. He lives in the Midwest , I don’t even know which state, and I live in Oregon. So there is very little chance of us crossing paths or having to see each other face-to-face if we didn’t want to . Recently our fantasy football league started up again. We’ve had the same league for five years, and it consists of my ex and I and eight other friends. Because the league was active again, people started texting in the group chat. I texted in the group chat and I didn’t think anything of it. A few days later, a girl friend in the group chat told me that my ex’s new girlfriend saw my name in the group chat and tried to have me removed from the fantasy football league. Thankfully, my friends in the fantasy league didn’t allow me to be kicked out so instead, my ex said he was going to leave the league. The other guys in the group were able to talk him out of leaving, but I was so upset that he tried to have me kicked out, that I did something that probably added fuel to the fire. I sent my ex a text telling him how hurt I was that he tried to have me removed from the Fantasy group and that he needed to keep his relationship drama separate from me. After that I was immediately blocked on all platforms by my ex. LMFAO. But before my ex blocked me, I noticed that my Instagram stories were being viewed by girls I didn’t know or follow and only had my ex as a mutual follower. My Instagram is public so anyone can watch. The final straw for me was with my ex’s new girlfriend, viewed my story herself, and she does not follow me or know me. After that I ended up messaging the new girlfriend myself, telling her to please stay out of our friend group, and that she has nothing to worry about, and that I am not interested in her boyfriend. She responded very nasty and insulting and told me it was all my fault for texting her boyfriend. I then told her I’m sorry that her boyfriends friends like me better than they like her and that I hope one day maybe she can be in the fantasy league. 💀



Submitted September 12, 2023 at 12:03AM

My ex of 4 years (25m) and I (24f) dated for 4 years throughout college ages 18-22. Because of that, we have many mutual friends from college. Almost every friend that we made in college is mutual to both of us. We didn’t end very amicably, but we’ve been able to maintain peaceful friendships with all of our mutual friends. My ex and I rarely communicate and we even live in different states. He lives in the Midwest , I don’t even know which state, and I live in Oregon. So there is very little chance of us crossing paths or having to see each other face-to-face if we didn’t want to . Recently our fantasy football league started up again. We’ve had the same league for five years, and it consists of my ex and I and eight other friends. Because the league was active again, people started texting in the group chat. I texted in the group chat and I didn’t think anything of it. A few days later, a girl friend in the group chat told me that my ex’s new girlfriend saw my name in the group chat and tried to have me removed from the fantasy football league. Thankfully, my friends in the fantasy league didn’t allow me to be kicked out so instead, my ex said he was going to leave the league. The other guys in the group were able to talk him out of leaving, but I was so upset that he tried to have me kicked out, that I did something that probably added fuel to the fire. I sent my ex a text telling him how hurt I was that he tried to have me removed from the Fantasy group and that he needed to keep his relationship drama separate from me. After that I was immediately blocked on all platforms by my ex. LMFAO. But before my ex blocked me, I noticed that my Instagram stories were being viewed by girls I didn’t know or follow and only had my ex as a mutual follower. My Instagram is public so anyone can watch. The final straw for me was with my ex’s new girlfriend, viewed my story herself, and she does not follow me or know me. After that I ended up messaging the new girlfriend myself, telling her to please stay out of our friend group, and that she has nothing to worry about, and that I am not interested in her boyfriend. She responded very nasty and insulting and told me it was all my fault for texting her boyfriend. I then told her I’m sorry that her boyfriends friends like me better than they like her and that I hope one day maybe she can be in the fantasy league. 💀
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