I (23F) have never had a relationship and I don’t know why?

I can’t seem to figure out why no one asks me out or even hits on me in public. I’m 23 and realistically I’m not ugly. I know my body could use work, I’m a size 14, but it’s not horrendous and I have hair that reaches my butt. My eyes are pretty and skin is clear. I’m relatively friendly but I do talk a lot and can be annoying but to strangers I can be charming. I’m able to talk to strangers, I have friends, a job, a car. Hobbies like going to concerts, spending time in coffee and book and music stores. I’m a little socially awkward but it’s not life altering. Everyone around me says I’m pretty and doesn’t give me any advice on how I can actually get men to hit my line. I’ve had four or five dates lined up in the past month where the guys block me right after we make plans even though we have stated we want to go and that we both mutually agree we are attracted to each other. I suffer from low self esteem due to childhood bullying and getting rejected is just getting harder and harder. I feel like my time is running out cause everyone my age has had long term relationships or even hookups. I feel like now that I’m getting older I’m getting less and less dates. Any advice? Anything anyone thinks I can change about myself? It’s so devastatingly lonely. Someone’s got to be able to tell me what’s wrong with me!

Submitted September 23, 2023 at 12:07AM

I can’t seem to figure out why no one asks me out or even hits on me in public. I’m 23 and realistically I’m not ugly. I know my body could use work, I’m a size 14, but it’s not horrendous and I have hair that reaches my butt. My eyes are pretty and skin is clear. I’m relatively friendly but I do talk a lot and can be annoying but to strangers I can be charming. I’m able to talk to strangers, I have friends, a job, a car. Hobbies like going to concerts, spending time in coffee and book and music stores. I’m a little socially awkward but it’s not life altering. Everyone around me says I’m pretty and doesn’t give me any advice on how I can actually get men to hit my line. I’ve had four or five dates lined up in the past month where the guys block me right after we make plans even though we have stated we want to go and that we both mutually agree we are attracted to each other. I suffer from low self esteem due to childhood bullying and getting rejected is just getting harder and harder. I feel like my time is running out cause everyone my age has had long term relationships or even hookups. I feel like now that I’m getting older I’m getting less and less dates. Any advice? Anything anyone thinks I can change about myself? It’s so devastatingly lonely. Someone’s got to be able to tell me what’s wrong with me!