Going on a first date this week, nervous

I finally landed a date with someone and I'm nervous lol. I've only ever been on one date before and it was really awkward and we never spoke to each other again. We vibed well over text but in person it was just weird. Basically I went to pick her up, and I thought I should get out of my car and give her a brief hug or something. I mean, I thought it would be weird or disrespectful if I just stayed in the car. But when I went to get out she instead she bolted right into the car and didn't say much. We drove to a restaurant and she was really quiet and I was like scrambling trying to think of things to say. We went to a restaurant and she complained about the food and didn't eat anything. I even asked if we could hold hands, but she pulled away from my hand after like 15 seconds lol. And then later we went back to her place to watch some movies but she kept like a 30 foot distance on the couch between me and her. And then we never talked again I'm so scared of this shit happening again.

Nervous point #1 I'm also picking her up, and I'm wondering if I should just stay in the car when she comes out? Should I give her something? Any pointers on how to make interesting conversation?

Nervous point #2, I literally just got a haircut a week ago and it's shorter than in my pictures. I tend to grow my hair out and then cut it short, and grow it out again..which I am doing now. I haven't had a chance to snap a picture of me with my new haircut and add it to my profile. However I do have one picture on my profile where my hair is shorter kind of like it is now. And, I feel like it would be weird randomly bringing it up after everything has been set already like "hey by the way, my hair is shorter than in my pictures, do you want to cancel the date 🥺 " and yeah it's just an awkward situation.

Nervous point #3, well in general I'm just nervous meeting people in person for the first time. I'm so scared of coming across as awkward and unsure of myself and her not liking me in person. I have this thing where I struggle to come up with things to say, and by the time I think of something, the other person starts talking and I interrupt them. Or I'll be desperately trying to fill the awkward gap with something random but it comes out weird and blah. I hate awkward moments and they're pretty much guaranteed whenever I meet someone new.

I want to be like that suave guy who knows how to like build attraction and seduction and shit like that, but like I said I've literally only been on one date before and it went bad. I don't want to be creepy making a move she isn't comfortable with, and I'm not exactly a mindreader lol so I don't really know how to tell what she wants. So yeah, any tips are much appreciated.

Submitted June 05, 2023 at 12:15AM

I finally landed a date with someone and I'm nervous lol. I've only ever been on one date before and it was really awkward and we never spoke to each other again. We vibed well over text but in person it was just weird. Basically I went to pick her up, and I thought I should get out of my car and give her a brief hug or something. I mean, I thought it would be weird or disrespectful if I just stayed in the car. But when I went to get out she instead she bolted right into the car and didn't say much. We drove to a restaurant and she was really quiet and I was like scrambling trying to think of things to say. We went to a restaurant and she complained about the food and didn't eat anything. I even asked if we could hold hands, but she pulled away from my hand after like 15 seconds lol. And then later we went back to her place to watch some movies but she kept like a 30 foot distance on the couch between me and her. And then we never talked again I'm so scared of this shit happening again.Nervous point #1 I'm also picking her up, and I'm wondering if I should just stay in the car when she comes out? Should I give her something? Any pointers on how to make interesting conversation?Nervous point #2, I literally just got a haircut a week ago and it's shorter than in my pictures. I tend to grow my hair out and then cut it short, and grow it out again..which I am doing now. I haven't had a chance to snap a picture of me with my new haircut and add it to my profile. However I do have one picture on my profile where my hair is shorter kind of like it is now. And, I feel like it would be weird randomly bringing it up after everything has been set already like "hey by the way, my hair is shorter than in my pictures, do you want to cancel the date 🥺 " and yeah it's just an awkward situation.Nervous point #3, well in general I'm just nervous meeting people in person for the first time. I'm so scared of coming across as awkward and unsure of myself and her not liking me in person. I have this thing where I struggle to come up with things to say, and by the time I think of something, the other person starts talking and I interrupt them. Or I'll be desperately trying to fill the awkward gap with something random but it comes out weird and blah. I hate awkward moments and they're pretty much guaranteed whenever I meet someone new.I want to be like that suave guy who knows how to like build attraction and seduction and shit like that, but like I said I've literally only been on one date before and it went bad. I don't want to be creepy making a move she isn't comfortable with, and I'm not exactly a mindreader lol so I don't really know how to tell what she wants. So yeah, any tips are much appreciated.