Things are at a standstill in texting. What can I do?

I’ve (M21) been texting this girl (F20) for the past 4 months now. We met on Hinge and have been texting everyday, but it’s never progressed further than that. No phone calls, FaceTime, nothing. I asked if she would be interested in getting together soon, and she said it would be fun, but after she’s done with school in late May.

I want to try and move things along, but I don’t know how or if I should. She’s a junior premed student and involved with some other clubs, so she’s very busy, and I’m worried that she’ll see me asking about relationship stuff and where she sees us going as unneeded stress put onto her plate.

I want to have some sort of indication from her that she’s still interested and not just texting me to be polite. I sent her a text a few days ago about how I know she’s busy with school and stressed about her workload, but she’ll do just fine and will ace her work, as well as saying how much I enjoy talking to her and genuinely enjoy our conversations. Her reply was “thank you I hope so too,” which really took the wind out of my sails and made me very uncertain. I thought it was kinda flirty, and was hoping it would reaffirm that she was interested, but I guess it was shot down.

How should I bring up asking her where she wants this relationship to go and what she’s looking for, or should I just wait until we meet in-person? How do I bring up talking over the phone or FaceTime? Should I try to be more flirty and see how she responds, or is that unwanted coming from a guy you’ve never met in real life?

I’m very anxious about this. I completely understand that she’s got her life going on and is very busy, I totally respect that. I just want to move things along because I’m scared that if they don’t, it’s gonna get stale and she’ll lose interest.

Submitted May 06, 2023 at 12:15AM

I’ve (M21) been texting this girl (F20) for the past 4 months now. We met on Hinge and have been texting everyday, but it’s never progressed further than that. No phone calls, FaceTime, nothing. I asked if she would be interested in getting together soon, and she said it would be fun, but after she’s done with school in late May. I want to try and move things along, but I don’t know how or if I should. She’s a junior premed student and involved with some other clubs, so she’s very busy, and I’m worried that she’ll see me asking about relationship stuff and where she sees us going as unneeded stress put onto her plate.I want to have some sort of indication from her that she’s still interested and not just texting me to be polite. I sent her a text a few days ago about how I know she’s busy with school and stressed about her workload, but she’ll do just fine and will ace her work, as well as saying how much I enjoy talking to her and genuinely enjoy our conversations. Her reply was “thank you I hope so too,” which really took the wind out of my sails and made me very uncertain. I thought it was kinda flirty, and was hoping it would reaffirm that she was interested, but I guess it was shot down.How should I bring up asking her where she wants this relationship to go and what she’s looking for, or should I just wait until we meet in-person? How do I bring up talking over the phone or FaceTime? Should I try to be more flirty and see how she responds, or is that unwanted coming from a guy you’ve never met in real life?I’m very anxious about this. I completely understand that she’s got her life going on and is very busy, I totally respect that. I just want to move things along because I’m scared that if they don’t, it’s gonna get stale and she’ll lose interest.