Ending Things - advice pls!

I’ve (20) been dating this guy (19) since the start of this year and we started exclusively dating last month. He had initially asked to be my boyfriend but I told him to ask me in a month because we had just gone through some issues. I had told him that our relationship felt platonic because he hadn’t kissed me yet (first two months) and I also told him I had an issue with him living 40 miles away and him always working (he works close to where I live). When we resolved our issue, I had told him I would take the bus/train to see him so he didn’t have to pick me up AND take me home. Even so, our schedules don’t align so I only get to see him once a week. Recently I asked him if I could see him every Sunday before he entered work and he said he’d be too tired + traffic but then he changed his mind. He even told me that Sunday that there is no traffic on Sundays so i was like ??? Anyway, the following week he didn’t bring up hanging out on Sunday so I made plans with my family. Furthermore, he used to heart my IG stories when it was a selfie but then he stopped. I mentioned it to him but my friend told me I shouldn’t expect that from him. Also last week we were supposed to hang out Thursday but he told me last minute that he had a dentist appointment (which it seems he scheduled before he even told me abt Thursday) and he asked that we hang out Wednesday after my 8-hr shift. I told him I was probably getting off at 4:00pm and he was running almost an hour late bc he didn’t get ready on time so I was upset especially bc I have a bad history of people running late and it upsets me because I don’t feel valued and he knows it. (it’s happened 1-2 other times) Furthermore, I have told him what I want in relationship and I told him I wanted us to communicate better especially because we don’t see each other often. I feel like he still doesn’t put much effort into texting sometimes and I know it’s because he’s busy but I feel like he can still text/update me. I recently stopped putting effort into my texting which is why I feel like our conversations have been short. Lastly, our dates have been feeling a bit repetitive. We usually just go out to eat then watch a movie in the car and then make out. I have tried suggesting other things. I don’t know if I should continue dating him and ask that we no longer be exclusive or end things here.

I would appreciate some advice or input. I’ve never rlly dated much or had a relationship.

Submitted April 11, 2023 at 09:03PM

I’ve (20) been dating this guy (19) since the start of this year and we started exclusively dating last month. He had initially asked to be my boyfriend but I told him to ask me in a month because we had just gone through some issues. I had told him that our relationship felt platonic because he hadn’t kissed me yet (first two months) and I also told him I had an issue with him living 40 miles away and him always working (he works close to where I live). When we resolved our issue, I had told him I would take the bus/train to see him so he didn’t have to pick me up AND take me home. Even so, our schedules don’t align so I only get to see him once a week. Recently I asked him if I could see him every Sunday before he entered work and he said he’d be too tired + traffic but then he changed his mind. He even told me that Sunday that there is no traffic on Sundays so i was like ??? Anyway, the following week he didn’t bring up hanging out on Sunday so I made plans with my family. Furthermore, he used to heart my IG stories when it was a selfie but then he stopped. I mentioned it to him but my friend told me I shouldn’t expect that from him. Also last week we were supposed to hang out Thursday but he told me last minute that he had a dentist appointment (which it seems he scheduled before he even told me abt Thursday) and he asked that we hang out Wednesday after my 8-hr shift. I told him I was probably getting off at 4:00pm and he was running almost an hour late bc he didn’t get ready on time so I was upset especially bc I have a bad history of people running late and it upsets me because I don’t feel valued and he knows it. (it’s happened 1-2 other times) Furthermore, I have told him what I want in relationship and I told him I wanted us to communicate better especially because we don’t see each other often. I feel like he still doesn’t put much effort into texting sometimes and I know it’s because he’s busy but I feel like he can still text/update me. I recently stopped putting effort into my texting which is why I feel like our conversations have been short. Lastly, our dates have been feeling a bit repetitive. We usually just go out to eat then watch a movie in the car and then make out. I have tried suggesting other things. I don’t know if I should continue dating him and ask that we no longer be exclusive or end things here.I would appreciate some advice or input. I’ve never rlly dated much or had a relationship.